My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

c section recovery

OK this isn’t my birth story, obviously – if I was reporting on my own birth it would be just odd. I don’t remember any of it. Really the title should be My Story of The Birth, or something, but that sounds weird…

Anyway, if you’re still reading (forgive the frequent random rambles), then this is what happened on the 3rd February 2017 when I gave birth to my second baby, a beautiful baby boy, by elective c-section. If you want the backstory as to why I had an elective caesarean then read these posts here – in a nutshell, it was an issue of previous section and potentially very large baby and in the end a section was recommended as the most safe and straightforward option.

So here’s the birth story. I’d like to say, in advance, that some of these pictures are possibly the most unflattering photos of me that you’ll ever see. The vain part of me wants to hide them, but I asked my husband to take them so that you could get an honest idea of what it’s like having a c-section – looking great wasn’t the priority here!

I was incredibly nervous the night before – I had a massive cry when I put Angelica to bed, thinking about how I wouldn’t be able to lift her for over a month and do our little nighttime routine. It was quite odd knowing that I was having a baby the next day – I went into labour with Angelica nearly two weeks late and so the reality never really hit home that a baby was definitely coming!

Surprisingly, because I thought I’d not sleep at all that night, I actually slept for a good six hours. I had dinner with husband and parents at about 8pm, I took my antacid tablet from the hospital at 11pm, checked my hospital bag and then went to bed. After tossing and turning for an hour, I decided to listen to some of the hypnobirthing things I’d downloaded when I was pregnant with Angelica, but they hadn’t transferred across to my iPhone from my old computer. So off I went to iTunes to re-download and what did I find there? A special hypnobirthing download for people preparing for a c-section! It was this one here – absolutely brilliant. I can honestly say that my whole experience the next day would have been totally different had I not listened to it. I only played it through twice (I was asleep by the end of the second time) but I really concentrated on the little techniques for relaxing and staying calm and I remembered them in surgery the next day. So, so useful, I can’t recommend highly enough. I should do a separate post, really – I’ll try and get around to that.

We had to get to the hospital for 7.30am the following morning and, as we only live a few miles from the hospital, I got up just before 7am and was in the car by ten past. (Couldn’t have breakfast and I hate not having breakfast, so I didn’t want to be up for ages feeling hungry. And nervous. Hungrous.) The day got off to a bit of a bad start when there was an argument in the reception of the Day Centre we had to check in at – something to do with queues, and it didn’t involve us at all, but it was all a bit much first thing in the morning. What is wrong with people?! At any rate, we didn’t have to wait in the horrible shouty atmosphere because a nurse came to get us almost straight away and we were taken, along with one other couple, to the prep area outside the operating theatres.

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

There we had a little cubicle where the doctors and surgeons and anaesthetists would come and do their final checks on me before surgery – I was given two gowns, one to put on forwards and the other backwards so that my bare bum wouldn’t be on show as I walked to theatre. Hurrah! My husband and I were in absolute (silent) stitches, though, when we heard the nurse go into the cubicle next to us and say “oh, Sir, I meant that your wife should put the gowns on, not you!” Hahaha….that set us up for the day, pretty much, in terms of lifting our spirits and making us less nervous. Picturing this big bloke just the other side of the curtain, wearing the two hospital gowns…

I had my checks (baby heartbeat, position, etc) and then the nurse put me into my anti-deep-vein-thrombosis stockings (well sexy, gardeners’ green, with a little peeptoe for your toes to stick through) and shaved my lady-garden around where the incision would be made. Then I was asked the same questions about five billion times by five billion people (any loose fillings? When did you last eat? Drink? Are you allergic to anything? What’s your date of birth) and before I knew it, it was time to go into theatre.

I wasn’t nervous at all until I got into theatre, then I started shaking uncontrollably. There’s something quite weird about walking yourself into an operating theatre, with all of its lights and bleeping machines and the people walking about busily with their masks and gloves on. I suppose that the majority of people never actually see the inside of theatre, but with a c-section you’re witness to absolutely everything apart from the procedure itself. (Though I think some people watch that part too and shun the “curtain”? Or is that urban myth? I couldn’t think of anything worse than seeing myself be operated on, I have to say!)

Everything that happened was almost identical to the last time, really. I had a section with Angelica because she was breech, and it was classified as an “emergency section” but in actual fact they decided on it at 11am and I had it at 3pm (I had eaten a load of Tracker bars and had to wait for them to…emerge…) so it wasn’t truly an emergency. Pretty relaxed, really. Nobody was rushing about or panicking, put it that way. So, when it came to it lots of things were quite familiar. I was expecting the little set of steps that led up to the operating table and I remembered having to sit hunched over a cushion so that they could put the needle into my spine for the spinal block. I was still incredibly nervous, but I practised the breathing from the hypnotherapy thing and it seemed to work – at least I didn’t completely freak out, shaking and crying like last time. Even when my cannula went wrong on the first attempt (won’t go into it, let’s just say my arm was rather bruised afterwards!) I managed to keep my cool. I kept the shaking to a minimum.

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

I’ll admit that it’s a bit stressful having a number of people poke you with needles at the same time. It irked me, with my first section, that they had to do the cannula at the same time as insert the spinal needle – my brain can only cope with blocking out one thing at once, and then everyone is talking to you and asking questions – “can you feel this cold scratch?” “do you feel anything running up your arm?” “can you hunch over just a bit more?” “can you try not to move, I have to get the needle into your other hand”….it’s incredibly hard to stay calm with all of that going on.

And so I totally shut off.

I went completely silent and refused to engage in any conversation. If I needed to answer then I grunted or nodded my head and otherwise, I stared at the floor and imagined myself breathing in golden air, like they said on my birthing download. Whatever I did, it worked, because before I knew it I was lying face up with people spraying air at my body asking whether it had gone numb yet! And then the curtain was going up, and the staff were having their pre-surgery meeting, which they do over your prone body which is very odd! I was just there thinking, you’re staring at my massive swollen belly, all of you, and my PUBES are on show, and you’re saying my name and date of birth and other things about me and it’s just too weird.

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

Where was the husband through all of this? Just behind my head. But I was ignoring him – ignoring everyone – because I was in my zone. The anaesthetists kept asking if I was ok and I didn’t answer, but I heard my husband say “I think she’s in a zone” or something to that effect, which made me inwardly amused. I think that it’s quite important that you do what you have to do, mentally and emotionally, to stay calm. For someone like me, who has to psyche up to even have a quick blood test, it’s a challenging situation (to put it mildly) to be in theatre, awake, being operated on. Even if the end result is something so wonderful! I was a bit worried about my husband and whether he was ok, but ultimately I was more worried about myself. I reckoned he was a big lad and could take care of himself (he’d been through it before, at any rate) and even if he couldn’t then I had to be totally selfish and stay focused on my cool, calm, collected experience…

Then, the section itself. To start with, about ten minutes of “rummaging”. Everyone says, “it’s just like we’re doing the washing up in your stomach” and “you won’t feel pain, just pressure and tugging”. I’d say there’s a lot more pulling and churning than you expect – I was taken aback, both times, as to how much my head and shoulders moved about on the table, which indicated that there was quite a bit of serious manipulation going on! I would have honestly held my breath for all of those minutes, I was so nervous and excited and anxious to meet the baby, but they kept telling me to take long, deep breaths, and so I did. It seemed an eternity waiting for the baby, but then there was a sucking, lifting sensation from my body and a few seconds pause and then a huge cry.

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

I can’t even begin to tell you what that first cry does to you, if you’ve never experienced it before. Something just utterly primal happens, even if you’re completely off your tits on drugs – both times I’ve wept uncontrollably. It’s hard not being able to hold the baby when they bring it round to show you (some people have it on their chest but I honestly can’t see where you would even balance it?!) but everyone busies around, cleaning and weighing and doing baby checks, and it does take your mind off the whole sewing-up business that’s going on further down.

I’ve been incredibly lucky that with both sections I’ve had minimal blood loss (this time it was 400ml, which is less than the average natural birth, apparently) and no complications, and so the post-birth part has been trauma-free. It’s still not a great feeling, lying there helpless and knowing what they’re up to, but the new baby is a great distraction and it’s not as though anything hurts, particularly, apart from maybe the pressure of the cannula in your hand where the drips go in.

The new baby didn’t stop crying for almost the whole time, and it’s quite a lot to deal with mentally, when you’re there and you can’t do anything to help stop the crying and all of your instincts are telling you to reach out for the baby… We were still in shock that we’d had a boy, I think, because we were absolutely convinced the baby would be a girl! But there he was, with a willy and gigantic testicles, and I looked at my husband as though to say “what an earth do we do with THOSE?” My husband went off to put a nappy and a hat on the baby, which I thought was quite brave as the table was down the “business end” and I would have been petrified of seeing what was going on, had I been him. He’s even more squeamish than me, so top marks for bravery there. I’m sure he probably side-stepped like a crab all the way down the room to avoid looking in my direction, ha!

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

And then? All a bit of a blur. You can tell when the section is almost over, because the atmosphere in the room changes. Two people in the room started chatting about their weekend, one started talking about a new job they were going for. There were sounds of cleaning-up, people were gradually moving away from the table. Someone asked if they could insert a pessary into me – I didn’t ask which orifice and, quite honestly, would never have been able to tell you which one it went up! I just looked down to see both my legs in the air, the weirdest feeling as I had no idea my legs had been moved – it was as though they were comedy rubber legs! – and they were saying that the pessary was in. Oh, the shame, the indignity, when I think of what my lady-garden region must have looked like. I’m surprised they even found a way in, if I’m honest…

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

Painted with something (to kill germs?) and then lifted (by a team of about eighty-five people) onto a wheely bed so that I could be taken to recovery. My husband had gone ahead with the baby, so he didn’t witness the anaesthetist telling me that I was the “perfect patient”. My God, I was so proud. I bet he says it to all the ladies, but it meant so much because I thought that I was a rude, gibbering wreck but apparently to the outsider I was very calm and collected! Husband obviously is doubtful that any of this conversation took place, and I have no witnesses, but I’m sticking with my story – I was a GREAT patient! I’m adding it to my CV.

c section recovery

Here I am holding my new baby boy for the first time. He weighed 9lbs 7oz, which is quite some weight when you only have bodily awareness from the chest up! It’s rather hard, this bit post-section, when they give you the baby and it’s ravenous and you have to latch it on and feed it, all whilst feeling slightly out of it, with wires coming from your arms and a great big needle in the back of your hand! I remember with Angelica feeling quite cross that they couldn’t just let me be for five minutes, give me a chance to gather my senses and get on top of things and catch my breath, but no (and this is a great intro into the rest of motherhood!): the baby is the most important thing and SOD YOUR OWN FEELINGS!

Ha.

I found latching the baby on very easy this time, but perhaps because I’d done it before and remembered how to position the baby. I also felt much better in recovery this time, too – I felt incredibly poorly the first time – so that helped with getting the baby latched on. He fed straight away, not for long, and then fell asleep on my chest as they wheeled me through to the maternity ward. What a total babe. Look at those chunky little arms!

My Birth Story: Elective C-Section

From here, if you want to know what happened next, you can read my c-section recovery story. I’d say that I couldn’t have really had a better c-section experience, this time around – it’s so different when you’re prepared, and not scared out of your wits, and haven’t already laboured, and aren’t emotionally fraught and absolutely knackered… I mean, still nerve-wracking, but I must recommend that hypnobirthing download again. I suppose you could use any meditation app or download, really, it’s all about positive thinking and clearing the mind and so on, but I did like that it was specific to the c-section scenario.

So there: the arrival of baby 2! As with my recovery story, I hope I’ve not been too graphic? When I read things back, I think oh that sounds horrendous! and I really don’t know why everything sounds so much more dramatic when you commit pen to paper. I can assure you that nothing was dramatic, it was so calm. It could have been dramatic, but I think that your own mental state plays a massive part in how you experience the whole thing – you can be calm and take things as they happen or you can go in with very heightened emotions and everything will seem like the end of the world. (Me, with my first section.)

Did anyone else feel that their elective/planned section was much calmer than a non-planned? Any other tips for coping with the stress or emotions of having a section? Any other hypnobirthing recommendations? Fire away in the comments section below!

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  1. C
    February 23, 2017 / 1:13 pm

    Loved this. Such an eloquent way of describing things. I have a 17 month old and now I feel ready to get pregnant for a second one. I had an assisted delivery with forceps and ended up with a huge episiotomy and a lot of blood loss as the baby was at risk. I always wonder whether a c section would have been better. I may have to do a section with the second (hopefully if we have one) due to the episiotomy. Thanks for sharing! And you and the baby look lovely.

    • Maria
      February 23, 2017 / 3:06 pm

      I had a similar experience – along with a lot of post birth healing issues – and having been given the option with my second I am going in for an elective c section soon. The doctors and midwives have been so helpful and not at all judgemental 🙂 good luck with your future pregnancy!

      • C
        February 26, 2017 / 1:01 pm

        Thank you Maria. Good luck with the second. x

      • C
        February 26, 2017 / 1:02 pm

        Oh and I had a lot of post healing issues too. A lot. I feel to heal the wound down there, especially when big, is even more difficult than a c section scar…

  2. Sonia
    February 23, 2017 / 1:14 pm

    Loved it! Thanks so much for your honestly. Not a mother yet, but am a physician and I never cease to be amazed by hearing patient experiences.

  3. February 23, 2017 / 1:36 pm

    I only know this part as part of the working crew, bring an anaethesist myself, and I can assure you: Noone is allowed to watch and not have the curtain. That is an urban myth. it would be too dangerous for hygienic reasons, even the accompanying father is told to sit down and NOT look, no matter how brave he thinks he is.

    • RC
      February 24, 2017 / 10:38 pm

      ‘Family Cented’ sections, with the drapes down and parents observing are still fairly rare but not a urban myth. Its possible to watch whilst maintaining the integrity of the sterile field and fortunately some progressive medics are prepared to explore the limits of what is ‘allowed’ to improve both experiences and outcomes for families and babies. Academic article describing the procedure (not for the squeamish) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2613254/.

  4. Hannah Mahmoud
    February 23, 2017 / 1:57 pm

    Lovely to read your experience Ruth. I had an emergency c-Section with our little boy Cyrus in Oct 2015, so have found your thoughts on an elective section or natural birth really interesting & helpful if/when we have another child. Made me laugh at the bit about your time in recovery, really reminded me of mine. I was also off my head & felt like I had my eyes mostly closed due to being exhausted & morphined up, also my arm & hands were feeling really numb, they just plonked Cyrus on me & I could barely even hold him. My mother-in-law had to hold him up to my boob! Lol. I also remember the nurse offering my hubby & MIL some toast & tea but turning to me and saying “but you can’t have any yet”. Prob best because I think I threw up shortly after! Lol

  5. Sophia
    February 23, 2017 / 2:03 pm

    Umm, you look gorgeous and so very young in every picture! Quite miffed when I read about you getting the cannula and spinal block inserted at the same time! To me this looks like they are trying to save time and in the process putting your needs and wants to the side, you would’ve been well within your rights to demand they do them separately. The cannula could’ve been inserted at any time prior to your arrival to theatre.

  6. February 23, 2017 / 2:18 pm

    Fab story Ruth! Boy, c-sections have come a LONG way since my children were born nearly thirty years ago. And I’m so glad of it too. You seem to have much more control and input and its not one long ordeal. Or maybe I’ve just heard too many horror stories. Your son is adorable! Well not the photo where he’s bellowing, but that’s a man for you, all hot air. I bet Angelica is thrilled with her little brother. Its nice that they are so close in age. Hopefully they will be close as they grow up as well.

    Take care of yourself and all the best to Mr AMR, Angelica and mini Mr.

    Ali x

  7. Stephanie
    February 23, 2017 / 2:46 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing your story in such careful detail. I’m 30 weeks pregnant and found this reassuring in its honesty and wonderful to read.

  8. Maria
    February 23, 2017 / 3:03 pm

    Thank you for writing this. I’m having an elective c section after my first natural birthing experience was a bit of a disaster! This has been very reassuring to read.

    Tried to find that hypno birthing download but it’s not coming up. I hope I can find one as it helped you so much!

    Maria x

  9. shin ae
    February 23, 2017 / 3:08 pm

    I’ve never had a c-section, but I’ve heard other mothers who have had multiple planned c-sections say they wouldn’t want it any other way, that they prefer it. It was interesting to read your story (well, stories). Thank you for taking the time and effort to write it.

    I’m so happy and pleased about your new baby, and that you’re healing well!

    I know you feel the photos are unflattering, and I can see how you’d look at the photo of yourself and feel that way maybe because of a strange camera angle or whatever. But you know, Ruth, there is something so very beautiful about your face in these photos, just absolutely, heartrendingly beautiful. I’m glad you shared them.

  10. Sherry
    February 23, 2017 / 3:12 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing! Your post is so informative and I really appreciate your honesty. I understand that everybody’s experiences are unique but my knowdlege about child birth is sadly limited to one born every minute. I came from a background where child birth is associated with much mystery and old-wife’s tales/superstitious traditions. The conversation with own own parents about my own birth had not been that positive. I have alway wondered what really goes on during pragnancy, childbirth and riaising a child while you are making a child! Wish you and your family all the best, I look forward to more posts!

  11. Laura
    February 23, 2017 / 3:38 pm

    I love this…it reminds me of my own csections and its comforting to hear that someone else had the same fears and emotional moments. Thanks for being honest…I think its exactly what we need to hear. Hope you are getting some sleep 🙂

  12. Balsam
    February 23, 2017 / 3:58 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I’m still in grad school and not anywhere near having a baby, but I will probably have to have one by C section because I’m prone to fainting and have always wondered what it would be like. I know not all births are as easy as yours, but it still gives me some solace that it seems like something I can handle.

  13. Samantha J
    February 23, 2017 / 4:54 pm

    Hello Ruth!!! I absolutely loved this post!!! You described everything with such wonderful detail but in a calm way that is not too TMI haha. I’m only 21 and am definitely not ready to have children until at least age 26, but the idea of child birth and the possibility of having a C-Section has always scared the wits out of me. But this post makes me feel a lot more calm about it and puts a lot of things in perspective. Thank you so much for sharing!!!

  14. April
    February 23, 2017 / 5:23 pm

    Great read. All hail hypnobaby! Congrats.
    I’ve walked into a surgical theater a couple of times, and I agree about the surrealist nature. And it’s COLD!

    Best wishes to you and Mr. AMR, and Angelica. (Love her newest picture, she’s a unicorn baby!)

  15. Alison
    February 23, 2017 / 7:50 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing your story, congratulations! I had 3 scheduled c-sections (1st one breech, then other 2 because I was advised against a vbac). I had 3 really positive birth experiences and have absolutely no feelings of regret or that I have missed out by not having experienced a ‘normal’ birth. I just felt extremely grateful to be in a position to have access to top health care and have a choice, and I don’t feel like having a c-section was the second best option.

  16. Kalyna
    February 23, 2017 / 8:17 pm

    Congratulations!

  17. Lisa Harris
    February 23, 2017 / 8:55 pm

    Can we see Baby AMR soon in a video and let us know what his name is please? Xx

  18. February 23, 2017 / 9:08 pm

    Congratulations Ruth! That moment when doctors and nurses start talking about the weekend is such a relief. I remember it feeling so good because it means everything is over and baby is healthy.
    I enjoy your writing a lot!

    Alina
    http://www.eclecticalu.blogspot.com

    P.S. I mentioned your blog in my last video! I had a revelation while riding a bike uphill. I hope you watch it and have a laugh.

  19. Laura
    February 23, 2017 / 9:45 pm

    Thank you Ruth. I am about 4 weeks away from the same situation and its reassuring to here your positive experience. I’m completely terrified of all that again but will look into the hypnobirthing recommendation x

  20. February 23, 2017 / 9:56 pm

    I loved reading this, thank you so much for sharing and the gorgeous photos of your little boy, assume most were taken by Mr AMR?

    Beautiful, you, the writing, the photos, your boy. Everything

    xx

  21. Hannah Chaney
    February 23, 2017 / 11:11 pm

    I’m not a mother yet but hope to be one day or perhaps even soon. I love the way you tell your story Ruth or experience really isn’t it…. I’m very happy for the AMR family

  22. Laura
    February 24, 2017 / 12:28 am

    I think you are very brave. Despite my rather traumatic ‘natural’ birth, the thought of a section frightens me and I’m not sure why. But I’m glad I read about your experience, if i ever need one I won’t be so scared. Congratulations, your boy is gorgeous!

  23. Abbey
    February 24, 2017 / 3:10 am

    I also had a rather traumatic vaginal delivery–several hours in the operating room after, several units of blood due to massive loss, etc., and my OB recommended I have a c-section if I have another baby. Reading your experience made me feel much calmer about the possibility. My husband (who desperately wants another baby) sends his thanks Hope you and your family are adjusting well!

  24. Theresa
    February 24, 2017 / 3:35 am

    That first cry – brought tears to my eyes thinking back to those two first cries. I was in almost your exact same shoes last June. Prior c-section to a 9.1 lb baby, and the drama of should I or shouldn’t I VBAC. Preeclampsia made the decision for me at 38 weeks. Welcome to the crazy of two children!! Both of your littles are simply beautiful; just like their mamma! Congratulations!

  25. Kirsty
    February 24, 2017 / 7:31 am

    Loved reading this (at intervals throughout the night while my one year old kept waking up!) you have given such an amazing account of it all, and i can totally identify with the not holding the baby when they are first out. I had totally different circumstances as had forceps but was in the same lying down position, numb down half of my body, and when they wanted to pass her to me when she was all bundled in a towel I just could not see any room to hold her! My partner held her first, and I’ve felt guilt about not feeling able to hold her right away ever since and this has helped me no end. I’m due my second baby in June, and although yours was a planned section, I feel more informed and prepared and calmer about sections of my birth was to ever go the same way as yours with Angelica. Thanks Ruth, never normally comment but your blogs are flipping great xx

  26. Nic
    February 24, 2017 / 8:01 am

    Fantastic read. Congratulations!! It brought back all the emotions and memories of my emergency c-section last year. Oh the pessary goes up “the back” too. I was also horrified and mortified!!

  27. Lauren
    February 24, 2017 / 9:18 am

    Loved reading this and it brought back a lot of memories of my elective c-section last year, especially the moment when you hear your baby cry. I cried uncontrollably as well. It was my first baby so I felt like it was years of emotions being released – wanting a baby, falling pregnant, the stress and anxiety of pregnancy, the hope and joy, everything flowed out. I had a really positive experience as well and similarly went into the zone and just focused on my breathing and not much else. So happy for you and your family.

  28. Gillian Pidler
    February 24, 2017 / 1:17 pm

    Thank you for sharing your birth story with such utter openess and honesty Ruth. The photos are all beautiful and I can tell you that there is nothing like having a son. I think it’s a wonderful feeling when they get older (mine is now coming up to 24), and they are protective of you. They don’t share anything mind, but they are good to their Mum’s! I also have 2 daughters, almost 26 & just turned 17. It seems a lifetime ago that mine were born and so I’ve really enjoyed reading your pregnancy and baby blogs. Makes me broody for grandchildren!

  29. Emma
    February 24, 2017 / 3:15 pm

    Having a c section is such a surreal experience – you’ve captured it so well.. I had 2 elective sections due to pre-eclampsia and prematurity. Like you I found my zone and coped within it. Although I had a surprise with my first when a doctor I had worked with was scheduled to assist – so found myself making polite if somewhat detached conversation on the table as all the preparations were taking place. It did take my mind off it! I found staying in that place in my head let me be there but not freak out and all was fine. It was calm and quick but strange and ultimately ok. I was so scared before my first and knowing that it’s all ok made my second much less daunting. I think whichever way you give birth, you just have to take things as they happen.

  30. Ruthann
    February 24, 2017 / 5:41 pm

    I love the way you write! This piece is so humorous even though it’s a serious, nerve racking scenario. Very entertaining; congratulations on your son!

  31. Chris
    February 24, 2017 / 5:46 pm

    Congratulations Ruth!! Can I ask a question? What kind of pessary is inserted after a c section?

    • February 25, 2017 / 8:45 pm

      I have no idea! Some sort of antibiotic maybe? x

      • Chris
        February 26, 2017 / 12:58 am

        Oh OK! Here in the U.S. a Pessary is a plastic device used to hold pelvic organs inside the body. I was just confused!

    • RC
      February 25, 2017 / 9:18 pm

      Analgesic, usually diclifenav (a NSAID). Goes in your bum rather than lady bits!)

      • RC
        February 25, 2017 / 9:19 pm

        Fat fingers Diclofenac

  32. Roisin
    February 24, 2017 / 8:40 pm

    Well I think you look beautiful in your pictures! Sounds like you were very brave. I used Hypnobirthing for my little boy and found the whole thing quite life changing. It’s amazing how strong you can be when you need to and I now have a very different attitude to my abilities to control what goes on in my body. I haven’t taken any painkillers since having Noah 20 months ago and had a drug and intervention free birth which I never could have done without Hypnobirthing.

  33. Roisin
    February 24, 2017 / 8:46 pm

    I adore that photograph of your little one crying…it reminds me just of how my little boy looked when he first emerged…so knowledgable and cross and knowing exactly what he wanted fr the first moment. This was the biggest shock of giving birth…I thought babies were delicate and vulnerable but there wasn’t a trace of that!

  34. Gisela Spencer
    February 24, 2017 / 9:15 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this Ruth, I have not had children and its truly such a miracle. Also mastering a calm disposition is quite impressive. I dread hospitals and merely entering them can cause me to faint. I am not kidding. Many a time my husband has had to catch me as down I go when visiting sickies. Well done Ruth and Mr AMR he is just perfect. I do hope things get easier you must both be so proud.
    Bless you for sharing it all and may the sleep situation improve for you soon.
    Big hug
    Gisela

  35. Anja
    February 24, 2017 / 9:59 pm

    Ruth,this is another great read. Not TMI at all! I just love the way you write. There is a calm and humour to it, that is so great to see/read! I had my firstborn via C-Section 13 months ago and am yet to become pregnant with a second. So I will have to go through all this elective vs. VBAC. I love reading your story, it is beautiful an heart-warming.
    I did not like the needles part and consider it quite cruel of them. The cannula could have been ready anytime beforehand. At least that’s how they do it where I live (Northern Germany). Btw, in our hospital it isn’t allowed to lower that curtain! But I’ve heard of C-Sections (and seen a documentary) where the Mum reaches down and pulls the baby out of herself onto her chest! Makes me really queasy that thought!

  36. RC
    February 24, 2017 / 10:40 pm

    This is a great read. Thank you so much for sharing.

  37. Margle
    February 25, 2017 / 8:57 am

    I’m siting here on the sofa with my two week old baby after a planned c-section and I am so so happy and grateful I had one. It was a world away from the experience I had with my first baby, which was a terrible long labour followed by an emergency c-section. This time around it was planned, calm and easy. I’ve recovered so much quicker than the first time. And this has meant I could bond and connect with my baby much better, because I’m not traumatised and in pain.

    I’m so grateful to you Ruth for all your posts about choosing a planned c-section. They helped me with my thinking immensely and I came to the same conclusion as you – when I really examined it the only reason I felt I should go for a VBAC is some internalised ideas I had about what “good” mothers should do. When I was able to let that go I could look more clearly at what would be best for me and my family. So thank you so much!

  38. Anne
    February 25, 2017 / 9:05 am

    I laughed and laughed at the man putting on the gowns! You must be so relieved it’s all over. Many congratulations.

  39. Madalyn
    February 25, 2017 / 6:12 pm

    Those little toes ❤ beautifully written, funny and real. Have to agree with whoever said you look heartbreakingly young in your photos, seriously you look like an innocent teenager (sure you’re snorting at that). Congratulations

  40. Ruth
    February 25, 2017 / 7:51 pm

    Congratulations with the son 🙂 yes, this “sod your own feelings, baby is the most important” – so typical, but you are the only person apart from myself, whom i hear saying that. It is always “i want to hold my baby as soon as i can” sort of thing. My first baby was taken away for 12 h – and it was sooo good. I had time to lay on my stomach and rest. Nurses said to me to go and sit next to baby’s incubator, i did couple of times, but just to show to nurses that i am “normal”. I felt calm and was sure thar everything was fine, and enjoyed time being alone. Next baby was taken away again, i layed in bed, happy to have rest after birth, but they brought baby back in 0,5 h. I was dissapointed. Of course,baby was ok,i was sure and would have been happy to have rest for couple of hours. Third baby was with me right from birth. No rest, not allowed to complain 🙂

    • Laura
      March 2, 2017 / 8:33 pm

      “Congratulations with the son yes, this “sod your own feelings, baby is the most important” – so typical, but you are the only person apart from myself, whom i hear saying that. It is always “i want to hold my baby as soon as i can” sort of thing. ” Because it’s good for the baby, not because people are selfish. Don’t be so quick to judge. I assure you that many mothers think of their children before themselves.

  41. Emma
    February 25, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing such an informative post. I love the way you write about things, whether the newest lipstick or such an insanely intense experience like giving birth. X x

  42. Becky
    February 26, 2017 / 2:54 pm

    I was a week behind you with my c section and this brings it all back! I wish I’d known about the hypnobirthing for c section-I had the standard version which I listened to before the section. I was dying for a wee before but apparently the loo was miles away so I remember trying not too pee as they were doing the epideral! So awful!! Xx

  43. Lou
    February 26, 2017 / 8:41 pm

    Oh how lovely, well done Ruth! My little boy was also 9lbs 7oz. He came by emergency c-section, I think because he was just too big to get out! I then had my twins by elective and found it all much calmer. Although I was in hospital for a week with the twins for various reasons. Quite envious of anyone who births vaginally and is home within 3 hours. But a lot can be said for NHS routine, meals delivered to your bedside and nurses helping with night feeds! Anyway, enjoy your little man xx

  44. Claire
    February 26, 2017 / 8:50 pm

    I’ve had similar births to you. My first was an emergency (although failed induction and baby in distress) and my second was elective. I found my sections ultimately very very positive and have had no lingering after affects at all. My daughter is nearly 8 and my son will be six in a few months. I popped over here after seeing your instastory. My heart totally went out to you. New babies are utterly wonderful it’s just a shame we are too knackered to fully enjoy them when they are tiny. Btw I’m not saying you are not enjoying your baby I’m just empathising that it’s hard. Anyway, the main reason I wanted to write was to tell you how I helped my section scar heal. I used my hair dryer on a low setting to dry the area after showering and I also used a maternity pad wedged against my scar held in place by some giant pants. Glamorous no but very effective in keeping the would area dry and clean. Is there any chance you could rope some friends and family to just let you properly rest for a week. No dishwasher emptying, cooking etc. Just cuddling your children. I had enforced rest as my son was in special care. I was in hospital for a week and I think not doing any house stuff meant I was able to heal. Having a tiny baby and toddler was incredibly hard BUT it truly did get SO much easier and tons more fun. Xxx

  45. Rona
    February 27, 2017 / 9:56 am

    Congratulations on the safe arrival of your beautiful baby boy Ruth! As a doctor and also first time expectant mum (31 weeks at the moment!) I found this a really interesting article form both perspectives. And not TMI – realistic but light enough I think! I can’t get your hypnobirthing app link to work…I’m hoping for a vaginal delivery but wondered if you could post the name of the app again or if anyone else has any suggestions/links/recommended books etc! Xx

  46. Elaine
    February 28, 2017 / 12:57 am

    Thanks Ruth, downloading that track tomorrow (which involves much more messing than it should thanks to iTunes being terrible) as looking at a planned section now due to a stubborn breech. Not what I had hoped for but your story is helpful!

  47. Laura
    March 1, 2017 / 10:43 am

    Don’t mind me. I’ll just be here in my corner DYING to hear a name. Carry on.

  48. Grace Dunlop
    March 9, 2017 / 3:01 pm

    Just had a baby boy 2 days before you, same weight, elective c section, very similar experience!! All the best! I enjoy your blog and you tube videos! I have found my little guy to be very hungry, but my oldest was big too and around 4 months became a really good sleeper! Congrats!

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