Baby and Body: 5 Months Update

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As I write this I am breastfeeding and being periodically smashed in the face by a small, perfectly formed hand. When they’re not trying to tweak my nose, the podgy little fingers are pulling on my bra strap, trying to free the nipple that’s not in use and winding themselves into my hair so that they can give it a good old yank. Yep. Welcome to five months: it’s like trying to breastfeed a monkey.

But what fun we are having! So long as I don’t try to get any work done, at all, time together is a total joy. And I mean that without a single trace of sarcasm – I absolutely love it. Add work into the mix and things can quickly get miserable; baby crying, then me feeling guilty then me feeling cross because CAN’T I JUST HAVE FIVE BLOODY MINUTES TO MYSELF?! The answer to that, obviously, is no.

The thing that I find most difficult, being an absolute workaholic, is the forced “downtime” that has to happen when I’m breastfeeding. I often do emails and admin (or write posts, as I’m doing now) but on the really long feeds (which I suspect are more for comfort than actual food) I can find myself getting frustrated. It’s something I need to address, really, because I need to learn to relax more and it would probably be the ideal time to have a quiet little meditation or something. I’ll work on that for next time… Meanwhile, here’s the five month “baby and body” update!

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Baby

Oh, lots and lots of fun. No longer my little woodland creature, this impish, plumptious thing gurgles and waves her arms about and tries new screams on for size and kicks her legs and rolls about (not completely over) and gets cross if I leave the room. Or if daddy leaves the room. She still wants to feed a lot of the time and we still have a midnight feed, a 3am and a 6am, which is almost nearly perhaps starting to wear a bit thin, though I love our cuddles in the dark and will miss them when she starts to go for longer periods. We now have something resembling a routine, which goes a bit like this:

6pm: I start thinking that it would be nice if Angelica would go to sleep now

7pm: I do a bath and a feed and then, after about an hour, I try to slide the baby over into her Snuzpod

9pm/10pm: Angelica actually goes to sleep after hours of feeding/playing/laughing/feeding

So yeah, that’s our little routine and it works, kind of, for now. I’ve given up on trying to make her go to bed earlier, because it just means that I have to sit there in the dark for the entire evening and we both get more and more frustrated. We just muddle along. I’ve set a deadline – the New Year – for getting into more of a routine. It’s called the “Shit Gets Real” routine and involves red wine (for me), story-reading (from Dad) and a complete baby-no-go-zone from 8pm onwards! Pass me the Malbec..

On a little sidenote: I am absolutely not in any rush to a) get Angelica out of my bedroom or b) stop breastfeeding. I’ve had a few people who have been almost disgusted by this, making me feel as though I’m some kind of self-righteous bore, but I feel as though I will have the rest of Angelica’s life for her not to be next to me in the bedroom and not be breastfeeding. If those things work for me, is that something to be sneered at? She’s only five months for crying out loud!

I’ve honestly been quite shocked, too, by some people’s attitude towards me for actually breastfeeding at all! I’m by no means one of these blah-blah-isn’t-breastfeeding-amazing people, either – I just kind of get on with it. I find it convenient and – dare I say it? – enjoyable. But I’ve been met with an almost sneering sense of disbelief from some women – Mums – who, mostly, didn’t ever breastfeed. What’s up with that? Surely we are all on the same team here?! Can anyone enlighten me on why someone would actively dislike someone breastfeeding their baby rather than feeding them formula? I certainly wouldn’t ever judge someone who chose formula! Bizarre.

 Body

Nothing very much to report on the body front, actually: the boobs continue with their melon-like existence, still rather veiny and – er – full. The tummy has seen a bit of shrinkage over the last month, though I’m sure progress has been hindered somewhat by the fact that I have slipped into the habit of having a Honeycomb Magnum every single night. Oops. That and quiche for lunch and the odd can of Coke to keep me going in the afternoons… God, that makes my diet sound terrible – I promise it’s not that bad! Obviously the daily Magnum could be dispensed with, but one has to have a vice. Maybe by the six month update I’ll have kicked the habit!

Oh! I almost forgot – post-partum hair loss seems to have begun in quite a shocking way. You can probably tell from the fact that I nearly forgot to report on this that it hasn’t bothered me too much thus far, but it is quite a spectacular amount of hair falling out when I brush it. I’ll keep you posted – I think this issue deserves its own page, really. I’m toying with the idea of getting my hair a bit blonder to plump out the remaining hair a bit, and maybe a bit shorter, but we shall see. I’m wary of doing anything too drastic!

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  1. Kelly
    November 17, 2015 / 8:24 pm

    Oh my gawd —- 4 months postpartum and I am amazed I have any hair left at all. It started around Halloween when I noticed my hair line getting deeper and deeper. I have to wear it up all the time to keep it from falling absolutely everywhere. I did not have the fullest hair to begin with so I cannot wait for this part to be over.

    • Arianna
      November 18, 2015 / 8:03 am

      Try to wear it up the least amount of time possible, it tends to distress the hair. Still, don’t worry: it’ll soon be over! 🙂

      • Kelly
        November 18, 2015 / 3:27 pm

        I know My husband has found way too many in his food the past weeks oops!

  2. Kayleigh waters
    November 17, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    My little girl is nearly 3 now (what!!!) but for her first 6 months she would not go to sleep until midnight. It didn’t matter what I tried she just would not sleep. Then at midnight it was like a switch and she’d go to sleep (until early morning feed of course)! Everything is a phase with children. X

  3. stephanie
    November 17, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    Your not alone… As I’m sure a lot of other people will say! I was reading and mentally ticking off the same struggles in this household, especially trying to get baba down earlier. So much more hassle than it’s worth for now. And don’t pay attention to THOSE people about the breastfeeding, not worth wasting you Magnum energy 🙂 x

  4. November 17, 2015 / 8:30 pm

    I never understood why everyone seemed to feel entitled to comment on breastfeeding or not breastfeeding. Why cant people just mind their own business? It is your business, and to some part Angelicas, and that is about it.

  5. Laura
    November 17, 2015 / 8:30 pm

    Hi Ruth,

    Have you had your thyroid checked? The hairloss might be caused by that. I have had thyroid issues since I was pregnant with my first child, and now I’m having them with my second (she’s 3 months). Worth a blood test! Ask them to check your TSH and your FT3 and FT4. Loving your blog updates!!!

  6. Rachel
    November 17, 2015 / 8:43 pm

    It’s weird. I feel a bit sheepish telling people I’m breastfeeding ( 9 months in)

    ..almost like its a sin or an indulgence. It’s not that I am uptight, it’s just that hardly anyone else does it.
    And I totally agree that it’s just easy and convenient. Whilst at the same time being so annoying and frustrating at times. Like now. When I need to do stuff. And the baby is tangoing not sleeping.

    You are right about enjoying the closeness and not being in a hurry. It’s such a lovely time even though it’s also very hard and exhausting. You sound like a totally instinctive natural mum.

    • Arianna
      November 18, 2015 / 8:07 am

      It’s completely OK, both for you and the baby! The best thing you can do is to breastfeed as long as you have milk and feel apt for it 🙂 For some people that’s one month, for some is more than 12!

    • Magda
      November 30, 2015 / 3:34 pm

      My daughter is now almost 10 months and I am still breastfeeding her. I stopped breastfeeding my son, who is now 5 years old, when he was 18 months. So it’s completely normal: -) my babies are very strong and healthy!

    • Kirsty
      January 5, 2016 / 12:57 am

      I still breastfeed my 3yr old and I’m currently 8mths pregnant. She’s dictated her wean and we’re currently down to 3 feeds a day when I’m not at work and none when I am. Imagine the comments I get!!

  7. Helen Beuca
    November 17, 2015 / 8:59 pm

    OMG, yes with the hair! I feel like I’ve barely got anything left! I even had a receding hairline for a while (EW!), but now it’s growing back and I’ve got a bunch of thick baby hairs along my hairline. Also, I don’t know why anyone would judge you or look down on you for breastfeeding. I feel like it’s a non-issue, something that shouldn’t be judged. Whatevs. I wish I could still be breastfeeding. I feel like there’s a missing bond between me and my baby because of the fact that she doesn’t like to breastfeed, or even be ‘on the boob’ for comfort 🙁 I, like you, relish having her sleep next to my bed and want it to go on for as long as possible!

  8. piratepickle
    November 17, 2015 / 9:03 pm

    I wish I could have breastfed longer but a poorly baby and formula top ups to begin with really screwed my supply , I’d have loved to have gone on for , well , as long as baby wanted ! But as much as I beat myself up over not being able to, I realised I just needed to enjoy each moment with my little girl , they aren’t this little forever, so here’s to enjoying it all while we can ! I just wish I could shift the baby weight already ! You’re looking amazing Ruth , motherhood seriously suits you :-)xx

  9. Stacy
    November 17, 2015 / 9:16 pm

    Hi Ruth, I completely agree with you regarding the ‘baby in her own room’ malarkey. My daughter is 6 months old next week and I am in absolutely no rush to get her out of our room, she has her whole life for that! The amount of people that say ‘you’re just spoiling her’ or ‘she needs to be independent’. I mean come on she has only been in this world for 5 months!

    If I’m honest the idea of putting her in her own room kind of makes me want to dive into deep dark depression haha!

    • Carrie
      November 18, 2015 / 6:25 pm

      My parents and other people keep telling me to put my baby in her own room or she will never want to go. She is 6 months end of November and I don’t plan on doing it any time soon either!!! It’s good to know it’s not just me as most of my friends babies where in their own room by now!

  10. Alex
    November 17, 2015 / 9:35 pm

    Ruth, try Nioxin for hair loss, it’s brilliant! I’ve had my baby around the same time as you and my hair has been falling out in clumps for the past two months. Like literally clumps. At some point I was genuinely worried about going bald, it was becoming noticeable, I had bald patches along the hair line for gods sake! Then someone recommended the Nioxin treatment system to me. I gave it a go and after around five washes only I noticed that my bald patches have started filling in with baby hairs! And the hair loss has definitely slowed down.
    It’s a three step treatment system (shampoo, conditioner, leave in serum), have a read here: http://www.nioxin.com/en-EN/proven-solutions/collection/3-parts-system-kits
    I got it from Amazon.

    Thanks for yet another very relatable post! I love reading them and nodding along in agreement all the way.

    Love to you and Angelica,

    Alex

  11. Halla
    November 17, 2015 / 9:36 pm

    Lovely post! I do wish women would play nice, not so much! I have been told I’m not a “real mom” because I had c-section, and an emergency 2 month early one to boot! Keep doing you. It’s a real pleasure to hear and follow along your path. xx

    • Arianna
      November 18, 2015 / 8:13 am

      That’s complete BS, I wonder what mean and ignorant people could say something like this. My mum had to have a C-section and I assure you she’s never felt like less of a mum to me. Besides, what’s the alternative? I would have choked myself with the umbilical cord otherwise, would she have been a better mum then?

  12. Erin Davis
    November 17, 2015 / 9:37 pm

    Ruth,

    I really enjoy your baby blog. I know it’s a big commitment, but please do keep it up (if you can make the time)!

    You and your husband are doing an amazing thing by sharing a room with your baby (of course, you already know this!). I also wonder why people have such a problem with babies sleeping in our rooms after X (you fill in the blank) # of months too – our own doctors (at least State side) even recommend co-sleeping at least for the first 6 months in order to protect against SIDS. In the end, you (and your husband) are the ones who have to wake up in the middle of the night to tend to baby A…not the people who want to tell you your baby should be sleeping in its own crib down the hallway. So, if it’s working for you, that’s all that matters. As a funny aside, I sometimes wonder if people think our cavewomen ancestors said to their babies after a certain age, “Oh, sorry, you’re X months old now, time to sleep on the other side of the cave”? Probably not. Our babies have not changed. Our culture has.

    As for breastfeeding, I wonder if people who are so off-put by the idea realize we are the only species of mammal that even has an alternative method of feeding our offspring – if you think about it, it’s kind of nature’s way of literally telling us our babies were designed to be fed at the breast. It’s only the advent of technology that has given us alternatives food sources (i.e. formula) to feed our young. No other mammalian species even has that option. That should tell us something. To look down on a woman who wants to breastfeed her baby because she knows from a nutritional and immunological standpoint it’s the best option, is mind-boggling. I think some women who have never tried breastfeeding might feel insecure about the fact that they don’t breastfeed (especially in light of all of the public health research and recommendations from physicians, pediatricians, and health organizations (such as the WHO), that it is without a doubt by far the healthier option. I think some people project their insecurities onto others. Maybe this is what is happening to you? But really, I think a lot of people are just either uneducated about the breastfeeding. In the end, you are literally giving your baby the best start to life possible. Keep it up, and remember, it won’t last forever!

    • Diana
      December 30, 2016 / 9:10 am

      Absolutely.

      Formula is artificial and companies who make it earn a lot of money out of it!

      I remember a nurse telling me that Nestlé go around poor countries telling people to use their products at a low price..then the mother’s supply stops and suddenly the formula is much more expensive…so it’s a commercial game.

  13. Melissa
    November 17, 2015 / 9:38 pm

    Great post/update!! It’s so strange to hear the negativity towards breastfeeding…due to many complications I didn’t get to bf my son and was determined no matter what to keep trying this time around…unfortunately I stopped about 3wks ago my baby girl is 8weeks, it was truly depressing… The stares, judgment an the oh so famous quote “breast is best” really got to me… But my baby is heathy, happy and sleeps for the most part of the night…as for body, with the first the weight dropped off in a month(natural birth) but this one it’s a much slower process(csection)..I am curious though about the scar it’s the only thing that bothers me an looking at images online…well let’s just say don’t do it…mine at first looked liked a scrape barely noticeable now it a bit raised :-/ anywho sorry for long post… Take care!!

  14. Julia Nurse
    November 17, 2015 / 9:52 pm

    I love how honest you are in your posts! I’m breastfeeding also & it has been the biggest challenge of my life! I’ve had to use nippleshields (I had no idea such things existed until after Michael was born). It’s unbelievable really when you come across negativity towards breastfeeding, even if they don’t say it with words people’s faces can say it all!! And I just want to scream at them…”have you any idea how hard it was?!!” I would say it took me 5 weeks to get anywhere near comfortable. The 1st couple of weeks I cried everyday because I felt like I was failing but I didn’t give up & now I call him my little chunk because he’s doing so well with his weight gain. (Something I’ve promised to stop doing once he can understand me!) I find reading your posts reassuring & catch up as & when I’ve got time which like you is usually midnight, 3am & 6am!

  15. November 17, 2015 / 10:07 pm

    My hair is finally growing back after loosing loads, although loads still comes out in my brush and my baby is coming up for 14 months, I now have weird wispy baby hairs which I am hoping will grow quickly!! Love the pics of you and Angelica, gorgeous x

  16. Faye
    November 17, 2015 / 10:14 pm

    I remember going on a hen do when my first was about 5 or 6 months old and being so self conscious and tearful about the state of my hair which had been falling out in clumps. I ended up trying it back, consuming a couple of glasses of wine and just trying to forget about it for the evening (my first night out post baby). It does stop after a little while – a few weeks I seem to recall – and return to normal so hang in there Ruth and don’t do anything too drastic.

    P.s Keep enjoying your nightly cuddles as it goes so fast, I need someone to invent a teleporter so I can go back in time for just a hour to enjoy some cuddles from my babies. They are now lovely but rather smelly little men who still love a hug but I do miss that baby smell and the pudginess of their limbs….

  17. Stephanie
    November 17, 2015 / 10:21 pm

    Your doing an excellent job. I have a 3 1/2 month old and I too don’t understand why mothers are so judgemental of others. My baby is formula and breastfed due to boob complications- everyone has their trials. I believe every baby is different and every mother is different. As long as your baby is healthy and happy everyone can just be quiet.

  18. J
    November 17, 2015 / 10:32 pm

    Ruth.

    The website has been fab. I am also a 30 something mum who has experienced difficulties conceiving. My journey included 3 rounds of IVF. One successful treatment and a spontaneous pregnancy.

    I absolutely take my hat off to you with regards to breastfeeding and if it’s working for you and Angelica is enjoying it and thriving this is a testament to all your efforts. I wanted to BF my kids so badly. With my now 18 month old I felt just Ill with lack of sleep and him constantly being cranky. I was loosing a significant amount of weight and was fainting regularly. And with my 6 month old I found it was a similar struggle.

    I felt terrible guilt when I was deliberating switching to formula and was perplexed by both mothers who told me to quit before I ever did and by the pressures of BF mothers. Looking back, free from my sleep deprivation, I can honestly do what works for you. Be true to yourself and make sure your decision is your own. I have spoken to friends about this issue at large and some have said it was no hassle at all and was massively enjoyable and others have said the enjoyed their baby far more when they stopped feeding and had more sleep.

    Being a mum is so tough and so rewarding all rolled into one.

    With all this being said. I’d like another….

  19. Sarah Ann
    November 17, 2015 / 10:33 pm

    Breastfeed on! My current baby is my third. I’m still breastfeeding, still have her in my room, and she is 11 months old. My older two are six and four, I did the same with them, and they are the happiest, most well adjusted children.

    People can shove their opinions in unpleasant places. You do you.

  20. Marianne
    November 17, 2015 / 10:41 pm

    I breastfed my daughter for 8 months and my son for about 15-16 months. Just prepare yourself for when Baby AMR gets teeth

    They both slept regularly in my bed until they were three – in fact – they still sleep in my bed when they’ve had a nightmare and/or are scared (they are 9 and 6)

    On the hairloss note – if you haven’t done so yet, it might be worth having a blood test. The same happened to me after having my daughter and it turned out I had an under-active thyroid. Better safe than sorry I guess

    Ignore everyone and do what you feel is best for you and your daughter xx

  21. habiba
    November 17, 2015 / 11:06 pm

    oh Ruth ignore those breastfeeding haters. your doing what’s best for baby and it’s working and convenient. I’m so worried I’m bf too but I do t know it’s not got any easier then when she was born and now she is 4 and half months nearly. really difficult 🙁

  22. Kirsty
    November 17, 2015 / 11:52 pm

    She’s five months old, still a bubba! If you had a four year old attached to your nipple with a full set of teeth then i’d cringe a bit cause, you know, ouch, but you’re still bonding and she’s still very young, this time won’t last forever!
    The co-sleeping thing isn’t something i’d personally do but I don’t feel I have the right to judge you, its obviously something that makes you happy and comfortable and I say good on you for it. Everyone is different and has their own opinions but if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Treat people as you’d like to be treated.

    On a side note, i’m adoring that you’re featuring Angelica on the blog, her little elvish features and baby smiles are gorgeous! Also I think a bit blonder would be lovely and a bit shorter would thicken up your hair if your worried about it, but i think that most of the styles i’ve seen you with have suited you. A while back (maybe a long while back!) you went a bit shorter and i thought that looked beautiful on you.

    Enjoy this fun interactive stage with her as once she starts rolling she’ll be everywhere in seconds 🙂 worrying you to death!

    xx

  23. Brooke
    November 18, 2015 / 12:16 am

    Hi Ruth,

    keep on breastfeeding as long as you like. Stop when you and Baby A are ready for it.

    It took my daughter (now 3 years old) and me 28 months to stop.

    And she started to take her afternoon naps in her own room at the age of 25 months.

    Will do excactly he same with my son (4 months).

    I normally do care what other people say, but when it comes to my children I don’t.
    And you should, too. You know what’s best for you and Baby A. Do what your heart tells you.

    Be sure that the time will come when she doesn’t want to cuddle and sleep in her parents room.
    So enjoy it while you can. 🙂

    Lots of love,
    Brooke.

    PS: Gosh, I hate postpartum hair loss! Hairline? Which hairline? *goes off to shed a tear… and more hair*

  24. Ana
    November 18, 2015 / 12:58 am

    I don’t have a baby, or plan to have one any time soon, but I simply adore reading your posts! And I absolutely love Angelica’s name! 🙂

  25. Alex
    November 18, 2015 / 3:06 am

    As long as baby is getting feed (breast or bottle), other people and their opinions can get stuffed!

    That’s my parenting philosophy and it works with a surprising amount of issues. As long as my baby is happy and I’m happy you can take your opinion and, well, shove off. Hah! Otherwise known as mind your own damn business.

  26. Monica
    November 18, 2015 / 3:11 am

    I always reminded myself that if some one criticises my choices, it usually reflects more on their insecurities than me. If you do what’s best for you and your baby, that doesn’t mean you think someone who choses a different path is “wrong”. But new mums can feel so much insecurity and pressures that they can get defensive really easily. We all just need some more compassion for each other! Mothering is hard work, regardless of your parenting style or method of feeding!

    I also wanted to add I think it’s fabulous that you are documenting your breastfeeding journey, including the good times and the challenges. I know that the UK has a very low breastfeeding rate compared to other countries, so seeing someone well-known do it and talk about it can be very encouraging for other mums out there!

  27. Johanna
    November 18, 2015 / 3:44 am

    Oh the hair loss.. My girl is also five months and it’s been going on for a month or so, so much hair.. With my first daughter it was important to me for her to sleep in her own bed and room. Now I can’t imagine putting my baby in another room! And just breastfeed away and ignore the awful trolls.. You’re doing great, just keep doing what you do!

  28. Sigal
    November 18, 2015 / 4:36 am

    I am also a new mom with a one and a half month baby. In the beginning I followed the breast feeding menu of lots of fruits and vegetables during the day but the last two weeks I have been craving the sweets ice cream, cookies and chocolate. I think it’s related to the breast feeding and the need to treat myself. We have him on routine of bed by eight and it’s really nice to sit and watch a movie or having grown up talk but we go to bed at 22:30-23.

  29. Clare
    November 18, 2015 / 8:40 am

    Lovely blog Ruth. My daughter has just turned 3 and I LONG for and miss the days when she slept next to me in her crib. She went into her own room at 10 months was breastfed for 15 months and I miss that too. It was such a short time and it went really, really quickly. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Love to you and Angelica x

  30. Sharron
    November 18, 2015 / 9:29 am

    Hey Ruth
    Don’t worry about the hair – this phase will last just a short time and then you’ll find it growing back with a vengeance.

  31. November 18, 2015 / 9:54 am

    Ah Ruth, I love these updates even if I don’t post a comment all the time. I’m so happy to hear you’re enjoying it – and let’s face it, the sleep/lack of time struggles are totally real, but THAT FACE! You made a cute one!

    Totally understand about the feeding situation – all any mums want is to grow a small person and keep them healthy. Boobs, bottles, both – who cares?! Can’t tell you the amount of times I was utterly thankful I had a body-mounted feeding supply when I left the house, but equally understand the merits of bottle feeding too. Whatever works, there should be no guilt or shame. Just milk 🙂

    Also, those magnums are amazing. I don’t think anything more needs to be said.

    Xx

  32. Annie
    November 18, 2015 / 10:33 am

    Well done you – you are doing a great job 🙂 keep doing what feels right for you and sod the rest. Due to work I had to stop breastfeeding my baby at 10.5 months. I miss it lots and bottles are such a pain. Such if life for now. Enjoy all the cuddles and don’t be to fast to quit the ice cream habit…. Lol

  33. November 18, 2015 / 10:33 am

    Hello!

    Loved the update. I’ve been thinking a lot about breast vs bottle and it is something I’m really finding it hard to come to a decision on. At the moment I’m getting inundated (?actual word) with ‘breast is best’, but then I hear from some many people (those mum’s you mentioned) how bottle is the way to go…..confused!!! Glad to hear you’re just getting on with it and loving it.

    Nichola xxx

  34. Hayleigh Bridges
    November 18, 2015 / 10:40 am

    Before I had my baby my hair fell out quite a bit, as soon as I got pregnant it stopped, I was amazed! As soon as I had my son 3 and a half months ago (and I mean as soon as) it started falling out again but this time on a whole new level. I can’t even put my hair behind my ears without being left with a pesky hair stuck on my hand. I haven’t noticed any signs on it stopping any time soon so I may be investing in some post pregnancy vitamins so see if that helps.

    As for breast feeding, good on you! I would have loved to have carried on with it but I only lasted 8 days. My little boy was a very hungry hippo and my little milk jugs just weren’t cutting it. I found the pain worse that my labour because of the amount he was feeding. The only thing that has changed because of me switching him to formula is that me and my baby are happy. A mother does whatever she feels is best and whatever suits her and her baby. The pain and the amount he was having to feed was making me depressed and then feeling guilty because feeding my child was depressing me. I was in tears all week. Nobody can judge a mother for what she is doing to help her child grow.

  35. Abigail
    November 18, 2015 / 11:05 am

    Ruth, as you are probably aware, PPHL is natural a few weeks or months after the birth due to the fluctuating hormones. But I remember you saying a few years ago that you sometimes have problems with low iron, get your ferritin levels checked just in case you are low to be on the safe side. Baby A is delightful and Motherhood suits you so beautifully!

  36. Georgie
    November 18, 2015 / 11:47 am

    With the disapproving of breastfeeding thing, I think when it comes to children, people need their own choices validated. So if you have made a different choice to them they sometimes take it as a personal affront and become defensive or offensive. Where I live almost everyone breastfeeds and I formula feed and sometimes people are like “but why would you not want the best for your child?” Like genuinely shocked that I don’t, most people mind their own business though. This competitive parenting get worse as well, the current question in the school playground is, “what colour reading books your child up to?” *rolling eyes* And wait till you start weaning.
    When it comes to hair loss my baby is 6 weeks older than Angelica and my hair loss has stopped. My hairdresser says it goes in3 month cycles falling out started when baby was 3months and stopped when she turned six months.
    Love seeing your updates, Angelica is just lovely.

  37. Helene
    November 18, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    I am an old mom, my son is 18, I still think it’s fun to read and remember.
    I do wish people would be kinder and not so judgemental about, well, when it comes to babies (and dogs), everything. You can’t do the right thing whatever you do.
    If you can breastfeed, and like doing it, do it as long as you want. If you can’t formula is just as good, it’s also a lot about that contact you have while feeding, no matter how you do it.
    I stopped completely at 22 months. He ate normal food, but as we were going abroad I though of stomch flues and decided to keep breastfeeding a bit longer that I would have if we had stayed at home.
    Some people will critizise no matter what you do, so just follow your mind and heart and everything will be fine.
    I often, still, wish people could keep their mean comments to themsleves.
    Oh, and if someone want’s to tell me it was horritd to breastfeed that long, don’t bother 🙂

    I love your writing, Ruth, baby, pets, cosmetics and beauty, always entertaining, wise and thoughful.
    All the best!
    Helene, the old mom.

  38. Carrie
    November 18, 2015 / 1:51 pm

    Same here! Baby is nearly 6 months and we still do at least two feeds in the night and she sleeps in our room next to me in the cot and I am in no hurry to move her out it stop breastfeeding. In fact it’s 3am here as I write this! I’ll have plenty if years of no feeding and her sleeping alone later!

  39. Elisa
    November 18, 2015 / 2:06 pm

    Hi Ruth ! Thanks for the update ! My baby boy is almost 5 months old now (and I got back to work and pump my own milk, and for that I see myself as really badass mum because it’s hard to do that at work). I was wondering : how does Angelica get to sleep ? Because my baby get to sleep while breastfeeding, otherwise he just stays wide awake in his bed until he cries… My doctor said I should stop doing that because that’s a bad habit, lol I’d rather ask her to come and rock my baby to sleep one night, she will see that it just doesn’t work and that in the end everyone gets frustrated. How could you give a bad habit to a 5 months-old-baby anyway ?! What do you think ? I’m sick of those people always pointing the finger at young parents, we just do the best we can…

  40. Maria
    November 18, 2015 / 3:56 pm

    I’m not a mom and I’m pretty young (20), BUT you shouldn’t listen to anyone trying to tell you this or that is right. I have no idea either why someone shouldn’t breastfeed, from a biological view (which is sort of a hobby of mine) breastfeeding is the best thing you can do. If gives the baby all the things it needs, it’s very important for their health (immune system) and most importantly you always have it with you. I mean how awesome is this. And of course the bonding between mother and baby.
    So keep it up as long as you both enjoy it.
    And in terms of your routine, it can help with crybabys and help you plan your time better.
    So basically, do whatever you think is right and don’t rush yourself there is no right and wrong 😉

  41. Endo
    November 18, 2015 / 4:38 pm

    Angelica is a beautiful girl! Is she a little bit cheeky?
    I look forward to your blog posts and reading about your recommendations(beauty too), because they are from an unbiased, real life perspective.
    Ignore the crap people spout, Ruth. I think they must be jealous I grew up with a baby brother being breastfed up until 18 months, so it’s something I don’t bat an eyelid at, but I may admire the bond the mother and babe have.
    Just do what you think is best xxxx

  42. Emily
    November 18, 2015 / 5:53 pm

    Love your blogs! My baby girl is just a week or so younger than your little bundle and it’s so reasuring seeing that someone else is going through the same thing! I completely agree about ‘breast feeding a monkey’ but yes, it really is so much fun!!

  43. ali
    November 18, 2015 / 9:01 pm

    i remember those early months well. you will get your evenings back (and you will be able to work uninterrupted again) even though it doesn’t feel like it! i found the baby stage so frustrating in that sense but now she’s almost 2 and a feisty, independent toddler (and i’m fully immersed back in the world of work!) i look back on those early days with rose tinted specs! i’m still breastfeeding my girl and i’ve experienced negativity from some people who just don’t get it (or think it’s their business!) even when she was just a baby. as far as i’m concerned it’s working for us and we’ll carry on as long as it does. enjoy your gorgeous girl! x

  44. Willow
    November 18, 2015 / 9:27 pm

    So this hair loss is normal?!?
    I’m so happy to hear that.
    I get grief for breastfeeding my little one from my mom all the time but I think thats just cuz she gave up on trying to breastfeed me.

    • Rita
      November 20, 2015 / 12:41 am

      Hi Willow,
      You have a good perspective about your Mum, people do like to feel they did the right thing, and tend to get defensive when they see others making different choices.
      Here in New Zealand, it’s expected that mothers will breast feed if they possibly can, and we tend to feel sorry for Mums who can’t manage to breast feed. I’m still breast feeding my 19 month old… though I am over it, and trying to wean him at the moment 😉

  45. Jana Darling
    November 18, 2015 / 10:21 pm

    Oh the mommy wars. The way that we mothers judge and criticize one another for our parenting choices may very well be one of the most challenging parts of parenting. We’d all be better off cutting one another some slack and keeping our noses out of other people’s decisions. We are all in this together and it would be nice if we could have an agreement that you do you and I’ll do me and we’re all doing a great job under the circumstances in which we have been placed. Glad you’re enjoying being a mom. XoXo

  46. Julia
    November 19, 2015 / 12:01 am

    I so relate to this post Ruth. Little boy is almost seven months and he shows no signs of losing interest in his night feedings (midnight, 2am, 4am, pretty much every two hours). It has gotten a lot easier now that I have mastered breastfeeding while snoozing on my side.

    Napping when possible with baby is a lifesaver but easier said than done when you have so little free time. I usually have such anxiety that he is going to wake up any second that I can’t manage to relax enough to actually fall asleep myself.

    Thanks for sharing your experiences I find it so helpful to hear how others are managing motherhood.

  47. Kate
    November 19, 2015 / 8:37 am

    Ah my boy is 6 months on Monday and had I written my 5 month update would have almost been identical to this. Evening routine was exactly the same as you and then just one night after the bath around 19.30 he fell asleep after the feed and it’s stuck for the last 3/4 weeks now (mostly!). No point forcing it as like you, we would spend the evening getting annoyed at each other and he would still only go to sleep after 9pm. Funnily enough he’s a nightmare if not settled by 7.30pm these days. We too are still on 2/3 night feeds and what a bore they are!!! I’m back in bed around half an hour but the broken sleep is becoming tiring. I find it difficult some nights as he has actually had periods of sleeping through the night but only ever last for a few nights at a time. Such a teaser! Charlie went in his own room at 4 months due to outgrowing his bedside crib and being the noisiest sleeper ever! It was a sad time as I wasn’t expecting it that early but I enjoy having my bedroom back now.
    I too am still breastfeeding and love it. I have also been met with the same reaction (mostly by the bloody mother in law “nothing wrong with formula, all my 4 had it and turned out fine” ) and part of it I feel is guilt on their part that they didn’t breastfeed. I in no way judge them and was always very relaxed about whether to breastfeed or not and if it didn’t work out I was ok with that but I still can’t help feeling people go on the defensive about it.
    Just this week we have started weaning. The next challenge which I won’t spoil for you and whilst some love this stage and start much earlier, I am already sad that it means our breastfeeding journey is starting to come to an end (although not just yet as Charlie seems to clamp his mouth shut at the sight of a spoon!) xx

  48. Zainieandtheelves
    November 19, 2015 / 12:33 pm

    I breastfed my first and had him in the same room as me until he was 15months. I just honestly found breastfeeding to be much less of a hassle. Formula feeding or making semi-digested mush in sterilised containers takes up a lot of time, time you already don’t have. However I’d be lying if I said he, at almost 2 1/2 isn’t a tad too clingy :/

    My little girl is 5 months too, and she is a Godsend! Sleeps through the whole night and I already have her sleeping in the nursery. Children come in all shapes and sizes and personalities I guess.

    Five months is a funny age though, they’re very cheeky, and very entertaining.

    Anyway lots of love to Angelica <3 <3 <3

  49. November 19, 2015 / 1:30 pm

    Thanks for sharing your experience!

    -Jennifer

  50. Mo
    November 19, 2015 / 6:58 pm

    Hi Ruth, I read your blog and I’m like: “Me too, me too!”. My baby girl is 5 months old too. The hair loss started a month ago and I don’t know how I’m not bald. I block the shower plug hole on a weekly basis. I’m also breastfeeding and I have a next-to-me cot. I’m in no hurry to move my daughter into a separate room or to give up breastfeeding. There are times I feel harassed by bottle-feeding mothers: “when are you going to stop that and give her real food?” Um, what else is breast milk for, except REAL food? Also nastiness about sharing my room. What everyone does is their own business so feck off, I’d never presume to tell anyone else how to raise their child! Anyway, sorry for rant, I love your blogs!!

  51. Jemima
    November 19, 2015 / 7:48 pm

    I have the snuzpod too and love it. I also love breastfeeding (this is my second baby and I breastfed my son until he was 14 months) and am in no rush for my daughter to leave my bedside – she’s three months. I sleep with the side down all the time… And wondered – when is it no longer safe to use? Is Angelica rolling yet? I’m so reluctant to stop using it… Trying to think of an alternative when it has to go… Trouble with ours is my bed is higher than the snuzpod, so that’s not very safe either 🙁

  52. Katusha
    November 19, 2015 / 7:57 pm

    Hi Ruth
    Our little boy is 14 months and still breastfeeds a at nights and sleeps in our bed. I am bombarded from all sides by opinions on both of these – the sleep and the breastfeeding, but it’s what works for us and I actually really enjoy having our little one so close at nights.
    Wait until the daycare/ nanny / babysitting times , that’s when the judgey mcjudgensons really appear ))

  53. November 20, 2015 / 2:04 am

    She is just the sweetest! So beautiful! The two of you! Don’t worry about people with strong opinions. You have to do what’s right for YOU (you, daddy and baby). And a guilty snack is totally acceptable 😉

  54. Claudia
    November 20, 2015 / 6:02 am

    Enjoyed reading your blog as usual and glad to hear that other than the hair loss and lack of sleep, things are going well. Our son was in our room till 9 months (daddy had enough by then) and now he is 13 months and doesn’t want to co-sleep for naps (or to let me sleep in a bit) and would rather play and crawl over us. Enjoy having little Angelica so close by and the baby snuggles – I agree, it won’t be forever and will be over before you know it 🙁 Don’t know why anyone thinks it’s their business to judge how others choose to feed their bubs. Do what’s best for you and bub 🙂 Look forward to the 6 month update!

  55. November 20, 2015 / 7:56 am

    I wanted to breastfeed my little on at least up to 2 years but immediate after his first birthday suddenly he refuses to have it. i don’t know why but it was really surprising for me.

  56. Emma
    November 20, 2015 / 10:23 am

    I think you are all kinds of awesome for blogging about breastfeeding. Fantastic to normalise it in the media 🙂

  57. Laura
    November 20, 2015 / 12:29 pm

    Love your monthly body updates Ruth- so refreshing to hear that all of us new mothers encounter the same struggles. You are absolutey entitled to your nightly magnum- my treat is a glass of wine when my little bnoy has gone to bed for the night and I truly enjoy it. It is truly tiring and busy but I keep telling myself that the day will come when he will not look for all of the cuddles so I enjoy every minute. My little boy is 3 months and still sleeps in his cot in our room- I have nno intention of moving him into his own room before he is 6 mths at least and even then, if I feel he is not ready I will keep him in with us for longer. As for breastfeeding- do whatever you feel is best. Personally, breastfeeding was just not for me-my baby has been bottle fed from day 1 and is thriving on it. I have never felt guilty or regretted my decision and I fortunately haven’t had anyone pass negative remarks to me- if they did, well I would just tell them to shove it. We should all support each other as mothers- once a baby is being fed, changed, clothed and most importantly- loved, who cares about anything else?! Keep the posts coming Ruth! Love them!
    x

  58. Krista
    November 20, 2015 / 7:53 pm

    Regarding post-partum hair-loss… Unfortunately, in my case, it was because my thyroid gland crashed… I had developed ‘Post-partum Thyroiditis’ – a very real and under-addressed condition that can begin 4-6 months after birth. Couldn’t hurt to get a blood test to see if your hair loss is thyroid related (TSH and T4 blood test). You may have no other symptoms but since the thyroid gland is so very important, it should ideally be looked at. The remedy is to increase a dose of thyroid medicine. Doctors typically see how it goes for three months and then reduce or eliminate the medicine as appropriate.
    Hope you don’t have this on top of the mastitis but I felt I should provide a friendly warning. This childbirth business is hard on us ladies, eh?
    Cheers, Krista

  59. Lucie
    November 20, 2015 / 9:44 pm

    One of the sad things I’ve learned since having children is that some women are so insecure that they love to make themselves feel better by trying to make other mothers feel bad for whatever choices they’ve made. Whatever you do, some helpful soul will sneer and make you feel like you’ve done the wrong thing.

    For the record I breastfed my son til he was 18 months (although to be fair, I didn’t have a choice as he refused to take a bottle once he turned 6 months!) and he slept in our room for the first year!

    Do what feels right for you and enjoy! that’s what’s important xx

  60. Gabi
    November 22, 2015 / 4:24 pm

    Hi Ruth (and all the other moms out there)!
    I was just wondering – are you taking your prenatal vitamins whilst breastfeeding? My baby is almost 3 months, I am exclusively breastfeeding and continuing taking prenatal vitamins, an extra omega 3 with good dose of dha etc, and iron. So far no sign of hairloss – maybe I will be spared?.. I Am really dreading of losing any more of my normally very fine hair 🙁

  61. November 23, 2015 / 4:16 am

    The judgement part I have experienced and have witnessed as well as heard of. Mommies seem to be judging if you are breastfeeding, if you are formula feeding, if you are breastfeeding in public, if you are breastfeeding for only a few months and then stopping, if you are breastfeeding for a year, if you are breastfeeding for longer than a year, if you are cosleeping, if you are having the baby sleeping on her own. It is disheartening to say the least, especially for a new mom. We are all in this together and we are all doing what we feel is best for our little families. Don’t let it get to you, just make sure that you pick mommy friends who are of the open minded sort and who will actually support you in whatever decisions you make even if they don’t agree with everything themselves.

    I breastfed for 9 months and would have continued had he not started to push my breast away whenever I tried to feed him. So he sort of decided for both of us when he was ready 🙂

    We had him sleeping in our bed up until he started showing interest in his race car bed, at around 16 months, and then one night we tried to have him go to sleep in it and he went for it and that was that. Every once in a while he would wake up in the middle of the night and walk into our room and have us out him in our bed but that does not bother us in the least.

    There is nothing wrong with co sleeping if you are being responsible enough to not smother your child. It CAN cause issues between you and Mr. AMR though if the baby being there affects your relationship. I can attest to how that can happen. You just need to be mindful of the facts regarding your own family and make informed decisions based on that. The naysayers will always be there to criticize something or another, whether they are mommies who believe their way is the best or are following the latest fad that might have worked for them, or they are people who hate the way you do your hair or your makeup or whatever else anyone complains about.

    Keep your chin up and do whatever works for you, momma! Xoxoxo

    • November 24, 2015 / 11:31 am

      We don’t co-sleep, she’s in a bedside cot! I think I must have phrased things badly because a few people have said this! Thanks for your comment, love the race car bed idea!! x

  62. Emma Bond
    November 23, 2015 / 10:59 pm

    My baby girl is now four. She was in my bed until she was two. I breast fed until she was 15 months. I wouldn’t change a thing. We are so close, and I still allow her a weekly Friday night sleepover in my bed, and my husband and son have one on the lounge sofa bed. The kids think its great. Keep doing what you are doing if it works for you and your wee family x

  63. rachel
    November 26, 2015 / 10:35 am

    I love your posts. Am shocked to read people have commented on breastfeeding – mums! OMG – shocked. Breastfeeding is fab. Just so awesome. No bottles no faf. Boobs there on demand. Easy peasy. However, actually the harder more exhausting option in the long run as you cannot just go out and leave baby with hubby, sister, nanny, grandparents. And they wont be doing it when they are 5! Exactly. Enjoy it Ruth. You are an inspiration. I fed for 11 months, and then in the 11th month my son, as I liften my top for morning milk, tuned his head and crawled away…and that was that…he was done!:(
    Love your posts, Awesome hair btw! xxx Rachel

  64. Jennifer
    November 26, 2015 / 10:02 pm

    Ruth I love both your blogs! And as a new mum too I feel you. My Elsie is now 11 months and I breastfed until 6 months I had to give up as I started back at work but missed it. We’ve been doing baby led weaning since 6 months and I’d highly recommend it! The book by Gill rapley has been fantastic! Can’t wait to see your next update!x

  65. March 11, 2016 / 6:57 pm

    Its great post. I think you are all kinds of awesome for blogging about breastfeeding. Thanks for share 😀

  66. April 24, 2016 / 7:18 am

    Thanks for your nice post ! My baby is almost 5 months old now . awesome breastfeeding blogging.keep its up.

  67. Anja
    June 7, 2016 / 8:15 pm

    Just wanted to tell you that I did read all of these posts when you did post them. However I was still pregnant, so now I reread them according to the stage my little boy is at. I really enjoy the rereading and thank you so much for sharing!

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