Toddler, Baby and Me: The Three Month Update

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Sometimes, as I write these updates, I think to myself my kids are going to absolutely hate me when they’re older, for sharing these things! But you’ve got to hate your parents for something, so here we go: Angelica did her first poo on the potty yesterday! To be fair, I can’t take any credit for it at all because it’s actually Jodi the nanny who has been encouraging the potty thing. (We have her for two days a week, and in that time she basically manages to do everything that we are totally useless at. She’s amazing.)

Anyway, yeah – poo on the potty. I don’t really think she realised what had happened, and she looked pretty disgusted at the poo itself (don’t blame her: it was massive) but it’s a good start. We’re intending on embarking on Potty Training Proper when the sun comes out and we can let Angelica run around the garden with no nappy on. I know this is terrible, but the carpet in our house was the last roll of that particular carpet ever produced (it’s like a gold-flecked shag pile, very seventies!) and we don’t want turds all over it. So garden-based potty training it is.

What else has been happening? Let’s find out!

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Angelica, now 22.5 months, is now really pretty enamoured with her little brother – “babby”. If he’s on my lap then she wants him to be on her lap, if he’s on the floor on his mat then she surrounds him with “gifts” and/or tries to insert various things into his ears/eyes/nose/mouth. So she has to be watched at all times, but it’s fun. Having two under two is hard, but I can see how it’ll get easier once he’s a bit older. I can already see how she wants to teach him things, even though she doesn’t really know much herself! Though her growing knowledge and understanding is a constant source of wonder to me – she’s like a little information sponge, soaking it all in. You can almost see the cogs turning.

New words? Table (babble), apple (babble!), balloon, mole (don’t ask), fruit, juice, hat, Doodle… Had she learnt dolly last time? I can’t remember! Airplane, car, walk, spider (sort of), poo poo. She says poo poo a LOT. And she watches absolutely everything – nothing escapes her beady eye. Try to eat a naughty chocolate in the utility room with the door shut and she literally sees it through the wall. Superbaby. She also puts breast pads down her top, trying to copy me, and shushes the baby and pats him on the back in exactly the same way that I do! So funny. It’s hard work, but I get so many genuine laughs throughout the day – really gleeful, silly times that make me feel about ten – that I sort of forget that it’s hard work. Admittedly, at about four I’m starting to think about bedtime…

The routine is: 7.30am wakeup, but my husband usually does this part and I wake up with Ted, as he’s still feeding through the night. Milk, then breakfast at about 8.30am, then snack at 11.30am and nap. She naps for between 1 and 2 hours, which is simply marvellous! Lunch, dinner at about 5.30pm, milk at 6.30pm and then bed at 7. If this routine could just stick for another couple of years then that would be great thank you very much indeed.

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The baby has no routine whatsoever, so thank God that Angelica has one! It’d be chaos otherwise. He sleeps for a solid five or six hours, though, from about 8pm until 2am and then has a feed at 2 and another at around 5am before waking up properly at around 8am. The rest of the day – who knows? Sometimes he’s awake for a few hours at a time, other times he naps through until around lunchtime…we just play it by ear. He’s always been a fast feeder, around ten minutes maximum, but now and then he does a good half hour. With Angelica I used to sit for hours and hours and she’d just keep on going – Ted is more to-the-point! He’s also very good at just settling back to sleep, now – not like the early weeks when he required all of the burping and comforting. That seems like years ago already. Funny how the time flies.

Ted has started to really interact now, with smiles and gurgles and lots of kicking and arm waving. It’s all very cute and I’m properly in love with him – it’s a joy to wake up and have his little eyes staring out at me from the Snuzpod! He’s really quickly grown out of all of his 0-3 month clothes – they are way, way too small, so I need to get my act together and order some new bits. I’ve found that Frugi come up quite large, so I have a few sleepsuits to tide me over, and I bought some amazing Peter Rabbit stuff from Mothercare last week, so I’ll crack that out now that he’s big enough.

What else? Vaccinations done (minimal crying, thank goodness) and feeding seems to be going well, though I need to go and do a weigh-in as I haven’t done that since week six! I could just do it on the bathroom scales, but it’s quite nice to go and see the health visitor, I always think – we lucked out with ours, Dorothea, she loves a good chat and is infinitely sensible and open-minded.

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I’ve been very fortunate, so far, that my husband has been at home for quite a lot of the time since Ted’s birth. Or, actually, I should re-phrase that: luckily, his work days have coincided with the days we have our nanny! So I haven’t often had both baby and toddler on my own. I have to say that the times I have, it’s been pretty full-on. Not “lose your mind and start drinking gin” full-on, but I can see how that happens… Just getting everyone up the stairs is a mission! Don’t even start me off on car journeys. Things are additionally complicated by the fact that we also have a dog and a cat, so it’s like some sort of strategy game trying to work out who can be left alone with what. Basically, nobody can be left alone together apart from the dog and the cat, and even that’s debatable!

I feel as though I’m doing okay, though – I’m learning to just take each day as it happens and not have ridiculously high expectations of myself. At first, I tried to WORK in the spare moments that they were napping or when Angelica was occupied, but I soon realised that it was madness to try and do too much. And at any rate, two under two requires total concentration. Otherwise you turn around and there’s a wooden salami poking out of your newborn’s ear, or your toddler is trying to straddle him, making horse sounds.

I’m starting to feel as though I really want to do some exercise, so that’s on my list of important things – even if it’s just a few moves in front of a fitness DVD in the living room. My body feels as though it has lost it’s stuffing. Or actually, it has plenty of stuffing, but none of whatever it would be that holds the stuffing together. I’m about 67% Magnum, 33% cheese and onion quiche. Something has to be done that doesn’t involve cutting down on my treats! Ha. I’ll let you know how I get on. Maybe I’ll do a little fitness series. The other day I was lying on my side, and the raised hip caught my eye. Ooh! I thought. My tummy is totally flat and smooth! I was so pleased, until I realised that the entire midriff was actually pooled like a big flesh puddle on the mattress. It’s as though it’s entirely separate to my person – it needs its own little tote bag to be carried about in. Like a pac-a-mac. How the hell do you exercise that away? Answers on a postcard…

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  1. Lottie
    May 3, 2017 / 7:59 am

    Ahhh, life sounds lovely and as though you’re all settling in nicely. Can’t believe your Ted is out of 0-3 months already, my Ted is 5 months and still in his and soon to be starting the 3-6 in a couple of weeks. He’s quite long but must be petite although was 8lb at birth! The discrepamcy between sizes still drives me mad though – all hail your babygrow guide!

  2. May 3, 2017 / 11:39 am

    I never had the two under two scenario, my daughter turned two three weeks before her brother was born, but your stories are so relatable. They had me laugh out loud, in a big part because this time is beyond me and with him being one already seem like a distant memory.

  3. Kat
    May 3, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Just wanted to mention about the personal trainer Jessica Smith – she has loads of great workouts on youtube! I think there’s a couple of postnatal workouts, and there are also ones that help you get back into exercising safely if you haven’t done any for a while!

  4. Emily
    May 3, 2017 / 5:43 pm

    I am pretty much living your life, just 2 months behind. My daughter is 21 months and my son is just over 1 month (no dog and cat though, thankfully). I can relate to every single thing you say. I find myself nodding and laughing hysterically when I read. 🙂 Besides being entertained, I’m comforted to know someone else is dealing with the same challenges we are and just trying to make it work. Love reading these updates!

  5. Rhiannon
    May 3, 2017 / 6:21 pm

    Very lucky to have the extra help with nanny. Sounds pretty full on! X

  6. Anna
    May 3, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    My belly lays on a mattrace as well when I’m on my side 😀 my baby boy is 3months and I too feel the need to exercise. But…. 😀

  7. Rhiannon
    May 3, 2017 / 6:23 pm

    Also any kind of box fit or kickboxing are brill for fitness and toning!

  8. Jennifer
    May 3, 2017 / 7:33 pm

    “…and we don’t want turds all over it.” You make me laugh so hard sometimes. I will have 2 under 2 in 7 short months, so I look forward to re-reading all of this when I’m in the throws of all-night breastfeeding.

  9. Sarah
    May 3, 2017 / 7:38 pm

    My girls still hate me for sending them to after school club at infants. They’re now 22 and 19. Brilliant.
    Love reading your blogs even though it was ages ago for me, makes remember things about my babies I’d forgotten. Bleeding nipples, mastitis etc etc haha. I’d give my eye teeth to smell that newborn smell again though. Xx

  10. Cassia
    May 4, 2017 / 5:06 pm

    Hi Ruth, thankyou so much for your wonderful real life posts. Your style of writing is so relatable I could read all day. Im sure your children will look back and love you more for documenting all those little things they said and did when they were young, its something i definately regret not doing especially on those early years. I remember from a previous post last year that you had diastasis recti. If your thinking of returning to exercise then I would recommend that you get it assessed as some exercises can dramatically effect it. May I suggest you look at Mutu systems a post partum exercise program for us mums that have this complaint. Hope you don’t mind me making this suggestion. Keep doing what your doing coz your doing great xx

  11. Marley
    May 6, 2017 / 12:01 am

    Is vacuuming a pain with the shag pile rug?

  12. DLA
    May 6, 2017 / 11:05 am

    maybe Dexter, the dog, can help you? a coworker of mine once told me the story of her son and unlearning the nappies. they were visiting someone with a dog for a few days, in summer. no one told him but the young child realised that the dog leaves the house and goes out in the garden when he ‘has to go’. the child realised that the dog doesn’t just poo/pee in the house when the dog is lying in the house and has to poo/pee. the dog goes ‘somewhere’ to poo/pee. and according to my coworker this insight helped a lot. the child took the dog as an example without being told to do so.

  13. Catherine
    May 9, 2017 / 1:18 pm

    Do you know I couldn’t budge the last bit of postbaby belly flop until after I stopped breastfeeding. I don’t know if it was because my appetite slowed down and I stopped eating so much, or if my hormones started to regulate themselves. Maybe a bit of both. But the thing is, I had been convinced that I needed to do special exercises to get back into shape, but I didn’t have to at all – I just had to give it time. Maybe you should go easy on yourself, it’s only been a few months… Not that exercise is bad, of course.

  14. April
    May 22, 2017 / 8:30 pm

    I love your Instagram videos of little Ted! He’s so sweet. My youngest just turned 2 and I miss those snuggly baby days.

  15. Therese
    May 26, 2017 / 6:57 pm

    Absolutely cackling at that last bit! BEEN THERE! You go mama. These updates are definitely my favourites.

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