Toddler, Baby and Me: The Six Month Update

toddler and baby update diary

Wah – six whole months! The time is flying by far too fast. I keep finding myself getting very weepy every time Ted the baby does something remotely non-newborn-ish, like, er, growing a tooth. I don’t know whether it’s a hormonal thing, designed to keep us procreating, but every time I fold up a tiny sleepsuit to put it in the charity bag or the “keepsake drawer”, I go to absolute pieces.

Anyway, here’s what has been going on in our crazy, nappy-strewn household:

Toddler

Angelica is two-years-and-a-month old and is now babbling away, stringing together mini sentences and soaking up new words like a little language sponge. I watched a video of her from a month ago and I can’t believe how much more she is talking – it’s really quite astounding how her language develops from day to day. Yesterday she pointed out of the window and said “Justin’s black car!” which I thought was pretty good.

One thing that I’m sort of glad that I never did: obsess over those books and online features that tell you when your child “should” be hitting certain milestones, like walking and grasping spoons and doing basic algebra, etc. I mean, I think it’s important to know if there’s a potential problem with your baby – for example, if they’re not supporting their head properly or they don’t seem to be very responsive or interested in anything – but developmental issues aside, it seems pointless to worry about whether your baby is going to walk at ten months or eighteen months. I’ll admit that I did stress a bit about Angelica walking late, but babies seem to do exactly as babies please, so what’s the point in worrying?

I like to think that Angelica was reserving all her energy for developing her near-genius brain. HA!

toddler and baby update diary

The most brilliant thing about this talking business is that we can actually communicate effectively. If she wants toast, she can ask for toast. (In the “blue bowl” no less.) If she wants to go to soft play, she can tell us that. (Not that I have ever been to soft play – nanny Jodi gets that beautiful task. Hohoho. I’ve managed to get out of it every time, mainly because I’ve been looking after a newborn, but now that Ted is more portable and predictable, I still don’t go because I like to think that soft play is Jodi and Angelica’s “special thing” that they can do together. You’re welcome, Jodi, if you’re reading! I know how much you love going there…)

Angelica’s favourite thing at the moment (apart from chatting to her dolls and teddies in bed for about two hours before she drops off) is spinning. Spinning, and running in circles. I don’t know how she does it – it makes me want to be sick just watching. Oh, and she’s getting hair! Finally! It’s still so fine (and very blonde) but there’s almost enough to scrape into the world’s tiniest little ponytail on top of her head. Bam Bam style.

A word on potty training, because so many people have asked: a few months ago, we had a modicum of success with Angelica using a potty. Just two or three days when she called for the potty when she needed to go, sat on it, did her business and got back off without any fuss whatsoever. We were both pleased and surprised – she just seemed to get on with it, there were no accidents, we couldn’t believe our luck! Fast-forward to the present day and – despite many encouragements – there have been no more potty sessions. I have no idea what happened – she just point-blank refuses. I think that it may have been too early, but then she took to it so well, it seemed like a very natural progression. I have to be honest, I don’t really put much effort into potty training at the moment – I was intending to do it more when the weather was hot again, so that she could run around the garden without a nappy on – but the weather has been shocking. So. I’ll keep you updated.

Baby

Baby Ted, six months old. He’s getting chunkier, but I get the feeling he’ll be a slim, tall baby like Angelica was. Is. He does have little fat rolls on his legs (so tempting to bite them) but I couldn’t describe him as a chubby baby. Despite the fact that he feeds from me all the time. It’s incessant at the moment, which has led me to the paranoid thought that I might not be producing enough milk for him. I’m trying to really get on top of my expressing, to increase my supply as well as building up a little store of milk in the freezer. He finally took a bit of expressed milk from a bottle this week, which meant that I could do a few hours on my laptop working without interruption – breakthrough! I’m going to start solids this week too, seeing as though he’s six months – I know you can start weaning earlier, but to be quite honest I’d not even thought about it until this week! Ooops. What is it you start with again? Apple puree? Baby rice? I need to get organised. I think he’s definitely hungry for some extra food!

Oh, on the hungry thing – Ted has started to physically wrestle me when he’s hungry and wants to feed. It’s quite funny, though I shouldn’t laugh, because he’s obviously starving and upset when he does it. He has no tolerance for hunger – one minute he’s jabbering away with a smile on his face, the next he HAS TO EAT RIGHT NOW. He pulls at my top with his little fists and beats at my chest and it’s actually quite hard to grapple him so that I can undo my bra and release the mammaries!

toddler and baby update diary

Sleep-wise, things haven’t been ideal, but I remember that Angelica was the same at this age – there was a definite rough patch before she started sleeping through. It’s not that Ted cries a lot through the night, but he feeds at about 10pm, then 1am, then 4am, then he might wake up at 6am and not go back to sleep. Or (like last night) he might feed at 11pm, then 3am, but even with this nice spacing he will still be awake by 6am. Eight hour sleeps just feel like a total myth at the moment – I can’t remember how it feels to get a proper rest. Which leads me to talk about…

Me

I have reached peak fatigue, I think. It’s not that I can’t function, I just feel as though I can’t do anything except survive. I live for the nanny days (Tuesdays and Wednesdays) but when those days come along, I find that it’s still difficult to get motivated enough to do solid days of work. I just sort of lounge about piddling with admin jobs that don’t require much in the way of brain space, and then I eat lunch whilst staring at my to-do list, which contains monumental tasks such as “finish editing novel” and “completely re-vamp both websites”. I know: ridiculous. I’ve always been this way. Apart from in my mid-twenties when I was too busy getting drunk.

Oooh – one good thing though: in the last month, my stomach has sucked itself in by about (rough guess) an extra 40%! Really noticeable! It’s as though a pissed, partially-sighted plastic surgeon has come along in the night and given me a really, really, really badly executed tummy tuck. There’s still a pouch, it still has the texture of cottage cheese, but there’s definitely less of it. Hurrah! By lying flat on the bedroom floor and utilising a plastic shoehorn, I managed to actually squeeze into some pre-Ted jeans. For a laugh, I tried to pull on some pre-Angelica jeans but the thighs were having none of it – progress stopped around the knee area. Off to the charity shop they go!

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22 Comments

  1. August 3, 2017 / 8:19 pm

    My youngest is one and a half years now and I am getting broody from time to time. But now that i get to sleep through the night most nights I just don´t think I can do it again…

    • August 4, 2017 / 9:08 am

      I’m at breaking point this week. x

    • Jemima.
      August 7, 2017 / 4:59 pm

      I am the same. I feel broody every now and again, but I really think having a third child would push me over the edge into oblivion. Mine are 3.8 and 2.

  2. Suzy
    August 4, 2017 / 7:30 am

    Must be something about Teds, mine went from happy to starving in a second too!
    I really enjoy reading these.

  3. Maireaddy
    August 4, 2017 / 8:24 am

    Hi Ruth, lovely update (and you do make me laugh with literally shoehorning!). For weaning, maybe check with your Health Visitor as their service may run a weaning clinic for advice.

  4. Nuala
    August 4, 2017 / 8:30 am

    Love these monthly updates! And I feel a bit better now too – I’ve been a bit worried that my (just-turned) 20 month old doesn’t have as many words as he should have (I keep reading that by 18-24 months a baby should have at least 50 words and be starting to put them into sentences). My son only has about 20 words (at most) although he does babble away to himself incessantly and can understand absolutely everything we say to him. He started walking very early so maybe he’s just taking his time with talking… But I’m going to try relax a bit about it!

    • August 4, 2017 / 9:09 am

      As my husband says, “have you ever met an adult who still crawls / uses a nappy / didn’t learn to talk?” (I’m always tempted to be facetious and say “yes” to all of the above (haha) but I get what he means. I think they all just do things at their own pace. x

  5. Lindsey
    August 4, 2017 / 8:35 am

    Hi Ruth,

    Absolutely love your blog. My first baby is about 6 months and 3 weeks, so it’s really fun to read about Ted and Angelica. Ted definitely sounds like he is in a growth spurt if you ask me (which you obviously didn’t), so that’s probably why he’s always asking for dem boobies. I think solid foods will help make him feel more full, and he might start sleeping longer at night too.

    • August 4, 2017 / 9:10 am

      Yeah, cracking out those Ella’s Kitchen pouches again! : )

  6. Katie
    August 4, 2017 / 9:21 am

    I think I reached peak fatigue at about 6 months too, it was truly truly awful. Really hope things start to get better for you sleepwise soon xx

  7. August 4, 2017 / 9:46 am

    Hi Ruth,
    by the way, thank you for the grammar rant a few days ago on instagram stories. Indeed, the possessive isn’t the same as plural. There needs to be a grammar police. I have never seen these Mondays etc you were talking about (thank god), but they’re atrocious indeed. ouh la la!! Keep doing grammar rants. Goog grammar is very important. Otherwise, where does the world go? Again, thank you. I love teaching grammar.

    • Jessica
      August 6, 2017 / 7:30 pm

      I completely agree! I tried to send you a DM on instagram but I couldn’t work out how. I cringe every time I see someone write how much the “love Sunday’s”, I’m worried people see it so often they will start thinking that’s the correct way!

  8. Jo Westwood-King
    August 4, 2017 / 11:03 am

    Ruth darling – get onto those solids! All those night feeds WILL leave you spent and feeling odd and exhausted in the day – a pre bed filler upper of apples/ cereals/ breastmilk etc is a good one too I am a mother of six (!!!!!) and imo
    children who talk a little later are often very creative and intuitive children/ adults later on and JUST as bright as the ones who drop sentences at 18 months. My 18 month sentence dropper is now in academia and my three year old sentence dropper is now studying a degree at the top hard to get into design uni in Melbourne ( Oz) So just saying – don’t worry – your little girl seems utterly awesome and completely captivating to me. I always was very broody – hence the six children that have been my life’s work – so beware hahaha! If you want another child – have one! You are an awesome mother . If you stop at two that’s gorgeous too – your daughter will have a special bond with her mum as the two girls in the family – my three girls are a force to be reckoned with and kind of stick together a little you know! It’s the way ! And btw don’t believe that rot about the old gender stereotypes – my boys are a joy – not typical macho lumps coz I didn’t bring them up like that! My youngest at 14 is absolute sunshine ! Each age brings such joy as well as inevitable challenges of course. Sorry about the bit of a lecture here – I know you are very capable and intelligent! Lotsa love and take care of yourself new mum !!!! xxxxxxxxxxxx

  9. Jo Westwood-King
    August 4, 2017 / 11:20 am

    Hope I didn’t go too far with my very long comment Ruth! Love your blogs

  10. D
    August 4, 2017 / 1:01 pm

    Feel your pain girl… Baby boy is a month younger than Ted and sleeping is an issue. Wakes 4-7 times a night since he was 3 month old. You know what was and is a great help? You are. Your post about Angelicas sleep regetion. Sleep deprivartion is. so. hard. But it will get better so just embrace the sleepless nights and rememer it shall pass. Few month later your lovely Baby A slept like a pro 12 hours with 1 waking max, right? Go with the flow. All your wise words. So, thank you Ruth! I will try and keep my mental sanity… and stop looking at random women on the street and ask myself: will SHE sleep tonight? 🙂 what a moron

    Aaaaaand congratulations on the stomach shrinkage!!! Celebrate with a double Mini Magnum tonight, you deserve it! or lets make it tree, I mean, you are feeding a little man and looking after a toddler!!!! Moms are super heros. WE are super heros!! no no no wait, because Spiderman and co. sleep at night moms are BETTER.

    Ok I think I have to stop now…

    Take care

  11. alice
    August 4, 2017 / 1:35 pm

    I just don’t understand how he is 6 months already! Because I am re-reading your weekly pregnancy diaries alongside my 2nd pregnancy it seems madness that he’s not a newborn.
    So envious you have yet to experience the joys of soft play…

  12. Michelle
    August 4, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this update, as always. Thanks for being so honest on here about how hard the tiredness is. My youngest is 1 in a week’s time and still wakes every couple of hours. I am so, so tired. I hope things improve for you (and me!) soon.

    On potty training, my eldest showed no interest so we just left it (I was pregnant and just couldn’t be bothered!). One day his granny was visiting and she asked to see his big boy pants. He put them on for her and that was that. We couldn’t believe it but he was obviously just ready (he was nearly 3). I’ll definitely be following the relaxed (lazy) approach with number 2!

  13. N
    August 5, 2017 / 7:22 pm

    Hope peak tiredness

  14. Tina
    August 5, 2017 / 7:30 pm

    Hope the tiredness isn’t too awful, my first was a horrendous sleeper and second is up and down so I truly feel your pain! Just surviving is the key, don’t set the bar too high for yourself in terms of work etc if you can avoid it. I can recommend the Baby Led Weaning book by Gill Rapley if you didn’t read it last time round (but oh man I am not looking forward to the mess again!!)
    Ps pleased to hear your tummy has popped back, there is hope for me yet..

  15. Helen
    August 7, 2017 / 9:31 am

    You always seem so calm amongst the chaos! My tip for a ravenous baby, I bottle fed the late night feed and added a teaspoon of rice cereal to the bottle – it seemed to keep him full a bit longer and therefore asleep. Which meant one less wake up in the night for me !

  16. Jemima.
    August 7, 2017 / 5:01 pm

    I am on breaking point a lot! The thing that bothers me the most, is finding time. There is just no time to do anything for me. I’ve started saying to my two – right, this is mummy time, where I get to read for half an hour, or write my music, or just hide away in a quite spot with the cat. It’s constant noise! I am a full time mum – even more so in the holidays when my eldest isn’t at Pre-School. I just want a bit of time. That’s all!

  17. Jemima.
    August 7, 2017 / 5:02 pm

    So you’re doing really well to get that time… to write and edit and all of that. But you must be completely shattered!

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