Baby and Body: 2 Months Update

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Oh, where has the time gone? I honestly thought that being indoors with a baby, constantly feeding, would make the time really drag but actually I would quite like to press pause so that I can savour every moment. I now understand what people mean when they say that each phase flies by – Angelica is now so long in the legs that I’ve had to put her in 3-6 month babygrows!

Here’s my two months baby and body update – I was going to change the frequency of these updates to be weekly, because there are so many changes all the time, but I don’t want to commit to posts that I may not be able to produce.

Baby Update

I’d love to know how much my baby weighs, but I honestly have no idea. I’ve tried that trick where you weigh yourself and then hold the baby (cat, dog, etc) but my scales aren’t that accurate, so I’ll have to tell you once she’s had her doctor’s appointment on Tuesday. It’s jabs day, which I’m not looking forward to, and then we have to pop to the health centre to see the health visitor because I missed the last appointment. (The poor lady turned up at my house to find a building site filled with shouting workmen – no baby – because nobody had listened to my voicemail!) It’s truly amazing how quickly babies grow – I remember sorting out clothes with my Mum and holding up the 0-3 month babygrows and just thinking how massive they looked. And now Angelica is already too long for them! (Annoying because they are actually all trapped in the storage locker, because I thought I’d be back in my house by now, so there will be a pile of pristine, unused outfits that I won’t need. There’s always someone to pass them on to, but I was really looking forward to putting her in some of the little bodysuits.)

In the past few weeks, things have become so much more interesting in terms of interaction – when I got that first smile it just absolutely melted my heart, and now it has become a constant mission to get as many smiles as possible. Which means that I stand there like a loon making the most ridiculous noises and doing crazy arm movements. I feel very lucky that I got to spend the last month with my Mum, so she has seen all of the little developments too – exaggerated facial expressions, little gurglings and squeaks and some crazy leg-kicking sessions. (And that’s just me. Hohoho.) It makes everything so much easier and nicer when your baby starts to respond and interact – it feels less as though you’re just trying to keep this inanimate object alive and more like you have an actual baby, with a little personality. I find that every day is a bit more rewarding than the last, and I definitely feel less silly when I chatter away to her and call her by her name.

Sleep developments: on many nights, pre-six-weeks, Angelica was sleeping for five, six, even seven hours through the night, but for the past week or so we have had little feedings every three or four hours. Which doesn’t bother me, but it does seem like a step in the wrong direction when the holy grail seems to be this “sleeping through the night” business. To be quite honest, I feel rather too relaxed about sleeping and routine – I think because we are living in limbo, without a house, I keep putting off trying to organise any kind of routine until we have our permanent home. Everything is on hold! But with a baby feeding on demand, it seems quite difficult to do things at set times. Is eight weeks the right time to be introducing a routine? Do I even need to be trying to set a routine? What have other people found works best? My sister did bathtime followed by a set bedtime quite early on, I think, but Angelica is completely random! Probably because our lives are quite random – we never do the same thing every day and are alway moving from pillar to post…

Body Update

Everything was going so well with my C-section scar. Ten days after the birth I was told that it had healed over nicely, three weeks after the birth I had my first bath (I had been showering, obviously, just not having baths) and it all seemed fine..

..until a couple of weeks ago when part of it just felt so sore and itchy and I had to have a look. (Using a series of strategically-placed mirrors so that I could see beyond my gut overhang.) It seemed that part of the scar had split (at which point, even typing that, I have a minor squeamishness-induced nervous breakdown) and there was some kind of little boil or ingrown hair IN THE SPLIT. Ugh. My fingers can hardly type I’m cringing so much. Anyway, after a week of antibiotic cream, it was still hurting (probably because the doctor poked it open with a swab stick, causing me to almost shoot through the roof of the surgery with shock) and so, not wanting to go back to be messed with, I changed my scar gameplan. Reading that scars needed cleanliness and dryness, I cleaned it with water daily and then afterwards lay on the bed for ten minutes with no clothes on (oh, the mental images – you’re welcome!) to dry out the area. I realised that my daily baths, followed by stretch mark oils, had probably kept it all a bit moist in the scar region. Drying it out seems to have done the trick. For now. I have my six week check (at nearly nine weeks – oops) tomorrow, so I’ll find out then. And obviously update you, because I can imagine that there’s nothing you want to hear more than the ins and outs of my c-section scar traumas,

What else? I still have a tummy that’s probably equal in size to a five month pregnancy belly, but the shrinkage seems to have plateaued. So I’m hazarding a guess that to get rid of the rest of it I’ll have to actually do some exercise, which fills me with abject horror. It has been ages. And I keep having baby-soothing injuries at the moment – I did my knee in doing little squat-bends to get her to sleep, and I pulled something in my back when I was putting her down in the pram! I’m like the crumbling man in that Bruce Willis film!

Mentally, all fine. I have to say that there’s the odd day when Angelica cries a lot and I feel a bit out of my depth – a few weeks ago she just wouldn’t stop screaming and my parents had gone on holiday and my husband was working in London and I just felt so alone. I ended up panicking and taking her down to A&E because I convinced myself there was something seriously wrong with her. Has anyone else done that? I felt so stupid when I got there, but actually, I’m glad that I had the peace of mind because I think that it was partly my own stress and panic that was making the situation worse. The doctor said that they see lots of babies all the time, and it’s always better to check if crying seems abnormal (also Angelica had this little rash that had been spreading) which made me feel a little less silly… I must do another post about this, because having spoken to loads of friends and family, it seems that lots of people have these horrific days now and again but find it hard to admit that they’re feeling overwhelmed and feel a bit embarrassed to ask for help. Is that a fair appraisal? Let me know!

Right. Another update in another month – I’m making a concerted effort to enjoy every single second of this lovely baby stage so if I can fit in an extra update in between then I will!

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  1. Lily
    August 17, 2015 / 10:33 am

    I’m only 20 and nowhere near to having a baby, but I’ve been finding this blog so interesting! Angelica is also the most lovely name and she’s absolutely gorgeous! Happy things are going well for you x

    • Abby
      August 21, 2015 / 5:22 am

      Same here. Love to you, Mr. AMR, baby Angelica AMR, Dexter, and Mr bear, and Mum AMR lOL

  2. August 17, 2015 / 10:38 am

    Being absolutely no where near the baby-bearing stage in my life, I still absolutely love reading your little anecdotes, Ruth! It all sounds like such an exciting time, I can’t wait to one day be there. You seem to be doing a great job, little Angelica is such a sweety. So happy for you and the AMR family xx

  3. August 17, 2015 / 10:39 am

    Love your updates- you write really honestly and it’s great to hear about Angelica as she grows and changes! You must be ever so busy with the house, a new baby and two blogs, but you seem to be doing amazingly!

  4. Olivia
    August 17, 2015 / 10:39 am

    Oh another picture! She’s so beautiful and precious. Yes they do grow so quick. Especially in that first year! My son too has very long legs and I am constantly buying him new pants! He’s now 17mths old.
    I know how you must have felt when you were alone and she was crying. It’s dreadful and there’s not a lot we can do when they have those days. I remember calling my husband at work and just absolutely bawling my eyes out! But you hit the nail on the head about admitting that it’s overwhelming. I was SO overwhelmed that it just affected my self esteem and confidence so much. Time passes and this too shall pass and I reminded myself this on the tough days.
    I now miss my teeny newborn boy so enjoy the precious early days as challenging as they can get!

  5. Jenny
    August 17, 2015 / 10:48 am

    Wow, Ruth – you’ve had a busy 9 weeks and still managed some blog posts and vids! Well done you 🙂

    And it has to be said: Angelica is utterly beautiful!

  6. AMS
    August 17, 2015 / 10:56 am

    Just regarding that last part, on feeling overwhelmed- yes, definitely. I remember when my little girl was a few months old and she fell off a very low couch and bumped her head on wicker coffee table… I rang the ambulance and felt a bit silly afterward. there was also the time when she just sort of went limp for absolutely no reason.it was very random and unlike her so I called the ambulance again and they told me that they prefer mums to ring up and have it be nothing than vice versa. Angelica sounds (and looks!) like a dream, can’t believe she’s already sleeping so much. Saskia (my girl) fed every two hours for the first few months and it was exhausting. Because she was (is) so high energy, I did put a routine in place. Nothing crazy, just a few cues to give her time to wind down or get used to the change in action. I don’t think they’re a must; some kids are very mellow and easy going about directives as they get older, but it does seem to reassure them in the long run. Saskia’s three and a half now, and, having been used to a routine/cues, she is more inquisitive about them now but less fussed about the process of a routine in general compared to kids who don’t have routines and are more nonplussed about it and less focused. I will say that I think it’s better to stick to either way. The worse is starting a routine and not being consistent about it, I’ve had that backfire and it takes a while to get them back on track. I was surprised at how a few little routine misses could impact so much, hence why I just keep it to the cues I can replicate easily. Would love to hear if the breastfeeding helps with the weight loss. Good luck with your scarring. Glad to hear all is well!

  7. Shradha Shah
    August 17, 2015 / 10:59 am

    I remember having an episode of incessant crying one evening, with everybody around me (husband, mum and dad) convinced that my son was hungry, but he did not want to feed. It was only when I went to change his nappy that I realised that he had a horrible nappy rash.
    When I spoke to the GP she gave me the best advice I have ever had, washing your baby’s tush in the sink with warm water after every poo…
    My son is 2 and half now and we have never had a nappy rash since then….

    I agree the idea was a bit scary especially since my boy was tiny but he used to rest on my arm and when I got the hang of it, it was pretty easy…

    Hopefully now we will be able to potty train soon so no more nappies….

  8. Alison
    August 17, 2015 / 11:31 am

    Congratulations Ruth, she’s gorgeous and the look of adoration on your face is just lovely.
    We moved (halfway around the world, no less!) when our 1st baby was 9 weeks old so I was in a similar position regarding routine- I felt it made no sense to try and establish something then have a huge upheaval moving to another time zone. So we just went with the flow and it sorted itself out eventually. Bedtime was quite late at first (evening feeds went on and on) and we just worked at bringing it forward bit by bit over time. Do whatever works for you, sounds like you are doing great!

  9. Selina
    August 17, 2015 / 11:55 am

    She is beautiful! Where is that gorgeous cardigan from she is wearing? Xxx

    • Sally
      August 17, 2015 / 8:50 pm

      I’m pretty sure it’s from M&S, my son had an almost identical one in off-white – it washed beautifully and looked all kinds of perfect on 🙂

  10. Laura
    August 17, 2015 / 12:26 pm

    We set a routine at 12 weeks. I quite enjoyed it actually. Bath at 6.30 then into our bedroom with lights low a little baby massage (he loved it!). I then fed him to sleep and put him in his crib.
    I bottle fed on demand, he fell into his own feeding routine but always had a feed at 7pm.

    Once he was down I would spend some quality time with my husband, reading a book etc

    He is three now and I have never had a problem at bedtime. ( I realise I have just totally jinxed this now!) whether it was the routine or just an easy child I’m not sure. But I know he did and still does thrive on a routine.

  11. August 17, 2015 / 12:32 pm

    I remember these days when my daughter was just crying the whole time and I just didn’t know what to do anymore. Almost everyone experiences them, but you always feel like you are the only one and that you are probably doing something horribly wrong.
    Let´s just hope I manage to stay relaxed the second time round, having gone through it already

  12. Sophie Baker
    August 17, 2015 / 1:17 pm

    Angelica looks so cute in that picture and I’m glad you’re both doing so well. I love seeing your new baby blog post tweets, they’re my favourite!!!

  13. Lauren
    August 17, 2015 / 1:34 pm

    Awh she is a wee dote!! 🙂 not having kids myself I am no use on the overwhelming crying and horrific days, but if the Unmumsy Mum’s blog is anything to go by, then those days are definitely more common than mums care to admit!! I have a friend who had her first baby this year, he’s 7 months now but she openly admits that it can be extremely tough sometimes and there are moments when he keeps on crying even though she’s done all the feeding, changing, burping and soothing possible and it’s just like “What the **** do you want from me?!” but it’s just frustrating cos the poor wee guy can’t tell her yet! Take care xx

  14. Ellen
    August 17, 2015 / 1:35 pm

    Hi Ruth,

    I wanted to give my two cents about some of the things you wrote about…

    1. We found that our baby boy was getting into a routine when he started going to daycare. So we adopted this routine – there’s no point in having another routine at home. For us, this works really well. Whenever we go off the routine for a specific reason, we regret it almost instantly 🙂

    2. This ‘sleeping through the night’ business is horrible. It’s probably one of the most asked questions you get when you just had a baby. There seems to be some kind of rule that your baby has to sleep through the night before she or he is three months old. What utter bollocks!! My baby was six months. With some kids it’s two years. Anything goes!

    3. I, and with me all the other mums reading this blog, remember the panic attacks and despair when your baby keeps crying, hours on end, and you’re all by yourself. Don’t ever think you’re alone in this one!

    I felt like I didn’t know what I was doing most of the time, that was the scariest part for me. There’s a really big taboo on admitting you’re feeling overwhelmed, not knowing what you’re doing, not daring to ask for help, appearing to be strong in front of other people because they all seem to have their things in order. If you would do an article on that, I think you can help a lot of parents.

    Keep writing, Ruth!

  15. Katherine
    August 17, 2015 / 1:53 pm

    Unrelated to your post (which was a brilliant read), but what a lovely name 🙂 x

  16. Moo
    August 17, 2015 / 2:00 pm

    Hi Ruth,
    I’d recommend Cicaplast (La Roche Posay), or even big standard cheap vitamin E cream for the scar. I found leaving said cream or oil beside the sink meant I remembered to apply it every time I went to the loo and washed hands. Just a quick swipe. Done daily over a couple of months and you’ll be saying ‘what scar??!’. Does the trick. Like you say though, only use these when stitches are out and scar healed closed and no risk of moistening a wound. Lovely pic x

  17. Mary
    August 17, 2015 / 2:28 pm

    So beautiful! She looks so happy!
    xx

  18. emmy0323
    August 17, 2015 / 2:58 pm

    I don’t have children but there isn’t one mother in my circle of friends who has not – at some point – admitted to having days like this. It seems completely normal and why wouldn’t it be? She’s a little person who can’t tell you if she’s ill or just having a sh*t day, pardon me. I firmly believe that babies have sh*t days and then mum has a sh*t day, too.

    Love your baby blog!

  19. Fabienne
    August 17, 2015 / 5:46 pm

    Hi Ruth,

    Angelica looks so big already and she is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing!
    It is sweet to read a bit about what it is like to be a mum. Me at 37 and being single for 12 years, I don’t see it happening any time soon. But still, I enjoy reading your little adventures and chuckle along, so thank you for that.
    Give Angelica a huge kiss for me!

    All the best,
    Fabienne

  20. Fiona Clayton
    August 17, 2015 / 5:59 pm

    We’re 5,months in and my son still doesn’t sleep through. Breast fed babies are apparently pants at sleeping until they’re well established on solids. We’ve tried a bath-milk-bed routine for 7/8 weeks now and it’s only just starting to regulate they do say it gets easier! I don’t know when ☺️ Xxx

    • Georgie
      August 17, 2015 / 9:34 pm

      Although my 3 month daughter sleeps through strangely my 3yo son still wakes up ‘up to’ to twice a night and he never slept through the night until he was about one. I honestly think it’s totally dependant on the baby.

  21. Johanna
    August 17, 2015 / 6:22 pm

    My baby girl is two months today and smiles and “talks” quite a lot, best feeling ever! I was all about routines with my older girl but now not so much.. She gets her pyjamas on when I’m not busy getting my big girl ready and then she goes to bed with me and I nurse her to sleep. Maybe that counts as a routine though.. I read that routines isn’t really necessary until they’re around six months anyways. So just go with the flow I’d say. Love from Sweden!

  22. Ko
    August 17, 2015 / 6:35 pm

    Hi Ruth,

    The crying at this point could well be colic… very common and heartbreaking to hear them cry like that, but they’re not in any danger. I found nothing but a change of bottle helped my 2, that and a comfort feed (they were having formula top-ups by then). Also tried Infacol and Colief for their symptoms with variable effect. Just like a switch had been flicked, it stopped around 12 weeks.

    Angelica’s increased feeding at night could be due to a growth spurt she’s having, hence more hungry. With my son it tended to happen every few weeks or so, so we tried increasing his feed slightly which helped.

    I wouldn’t get too hung up on a routine. Remember Angelica’s barely 2 months old, and it is likely that you’ll both find your own rhythm. We did however implement a bath and bedtime routine from day 1 which I think has stood us in good stead now our boy is 3….. He knows the drill and, whilst he does try to push his luck sometimes, it does make bedtime easier when they are toddlers and beyond. Plus it does give you some “grown-up” time in the evening…..which is also important for self-preservation!

    Keep up the good work. Keep calm and carry on Ol’ Mum!
    Ko x

  23. Ko
    August 17, 2015 / 6:37 pm

    PS: I forgot to say that Angelica looks so adorable I. Your photo and you look happy and well x

  24. Laua
    August 17, 2015 / 7:40 pm

    Oh my goodness…reading this brings back so many memories of my first child, and I am one week away from having my second! I also had a c-section and it also became irritated by excess moisture from baths and sweating a lot as I had my son in June and we live in Texas! My doctor recommended putting a paper towel next to the scar to absorb moisture and that worked pretty well.

    Those days of being overwhelmed only continue but they are so very normal! Hang in there 🙂

  25. Elpy
    August 17, 2015 / 8:05 pm

    Hello Ruth! I am following you for some years and when you announced your pregnancy I was really happy! I am a mother of an almost four year old toodler and I must admit that I have never been happier in my life!
    I also had a c-section but I didn’t have problems with my scar. I showered completelly after a week circa but I was using a sterile garza over the scar . Before I was cleaning myself in parts. First the hair then the legs then the intimate etc. and the scar for last. What I hated the most was the injections I had to make because of the blood that was gettting very dense… but THANK GOD it all passed and I am happy and healthy!
    I am so happy for you and your beautiful Angelica! I wish you all the best, a bright future full of health and happiness!

  26. Sara
    August 17, 2015 / 8:18 pm

    What a beautiful baby girl. I an hardly wait to hear more about baby-land.
    You have certainly taken on to mother-hood like a champ.
    Best Regards
    Sara – USA

  27. August 17, 2015 / 8:18 pm

    Ruth, she is absolutely gorgeous! I can’t believe it’s been 2 months already. I’m so happy for you and Mr AMR. ♥

  28. Lin
    August 17, 2015 / 8:26 pm

    I also rushed my son to the A&E twice in similar type of days as you describe. Mostly due to stomach pain. It seemed all was fine and perfectly normal.

    Regarding routines I did find some helpful. It is nice to make the baby follow your routines and not the other way around. At least in a month or two.
    To many routines however does lead to big drama when something is out of the ordinary, so something in the middle might be a good guide.

    As you have discovered each fase is short and precious and do film and photograph a lot. Blogging also helps to remember the tiny things.

    My son was a happy toddler just a short while ago and next week he will be 17 years old.
    Reading your posts brings back fond memories and many a laugh!

    Thank you again for sharing!!

  29. trina
    August 17, 2015 / 8:29 pm

    My “baby” is 30yrs old so seeee we live thru this!!lol-Getting overwhelmed is so natural and normal and no, going the a&e probably helped, didn’t hurt. As moms we know when something isn’t quite right. No harm done, I wouldn’t feel foolish at all so don’t stress over that. I remember that feeling of feeding on demand and I started to almost moooo like a cow. Jeez, I told myself, is this all I’m good for? When our daughter was fussy, which was rare, we would get in the car and take a drive, turn on the dryer and put her on it and let the heat and movement soothe her, we got creative. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed because we are so in to our babies, I mean all of time is spent on them and with them. We are so in tune, it’s like we absorb all of their stress and cries so try to find some outlets, like taking a walk or a drive, feeding when it’s not time just for the soothing aspect. You are doing fine, your child wouldn’t be growing if you weren’t!

  30. Kirsty
    August 17, 2015 / 8:43 pm

    My niece is seven and still doesnt sleep through!

    Routines I’ve found can really help, they come to expect it. If it helps you to calm down as well with her then that’s always nice as she’ll ‘feed’ off of how relaxed you are. Its very much a body language/vibe motion with babies/children, what they can sense is mad! But otherwise you could just go with her, if she seems settled with that then theres no problem! All babies are different 🙂

    Non-stop crying is very upsetting. I had my niece over night when she was a little bubba and she cried for about 4 hours straight before she wore herself out. I was 19 at the time and my sister and her husband were having a night of sleep (as I said, she still doesnt sleep through). I felt so bad, that I was doing something really wrong as I couldn’t seem to comfort her. Madness as she woke a few hours later and sat contently gurgling on my chest for the remainder of the evening, then slept until her next night feed!

    Never feel like you can’t/shouldn’t ask for help, shes a lovely little bubba, i’m sure that many of your family and friends will be willing to lend a hand. Even if its just giving her a squidge for an hour or so while you have a soak in the bath!

    By the way, she’s absolutely gorgeous! I’m so happy that you sharing these little bits of her development with us! I’m super broody now 🙂

    xxx

  31. Alexa
    August 17, 2015 / 8:46 pm

    I found that with all my three boys they increased their feelings at 2 months, 6 months and 9 months because they are going through growth spurts. They need more milk at each feed and that is the way they increase the production. She is beautiful just like her mamma.

    Alexa

  32. Josie
    August 17, 2015 / 8:53 pm

    Hi Ruth. As a mum to nearly 4 year old twins I never really had the chance to do much research after they arrived (remember being super surprised when told I had to feed them every few hours!!!) anyways the best advice I was given by a midwife was ‘if baby’s crying baby’s hungry!!!! …. still applies to toddlers) and from me is to always trust your maternal instinct above anything or anybody else, if in means popping to A&E u go for it! Am sure you’re doing an amazing job, well done for even managing to type! Xx

  33. Yasmina
    August 17, 2015 / 8:54 pm

    I’m not sure if anyone recommended this to you, but the use of natural raw honey is excellent for heeling wounds and scars. I would say it is the best. That is all I use. Even if you put it in for few minutes, ideally is for few hours than you can clean it and daily.

    Happy to read you. Enjoy this baby stage .

    • Kim
      August 20, 2015 / 8:55 pm

      That’s true – I have a friend who is a wound care nurse, and she uses a product called MediHoney, which is literally just honey on band-aids. She says it is great for scars.

  34. Charlie S
    August 17, 2015 / 9:11 pm

    Lovely to hear you’re getting on so well.
    One tip that worked for me when my baby would occasionally have a meltdown was skin-to-skin – I.e. lying her on your chest with her clothes off and your top off. It’s great for newborns but also older babies too, seems to be very calming for them and can really avert a crisis!

    I didnt worry about routines too much, babies go through so many changes in the first year it made sense to me to go with the flow.

    And sleeping through the night – people love to ask about that don’t they? Apparently the medical definition of sleeping through is sleeping for 5 hours straight, which isn’t quite what most people have in mind when they’re hoping for a good night’s sleep. With all the growth spurts babies have I think it’s normal to feed more at night and often the best way for them to get the nutrition they need.

    All the best! X

  35. Georgie
    August 17, 2015 / 9:27 pm

    Oh so glad you have updated!
    With regards to routine we get up at seven and aim to have baby in bed by seven but have no set routine I between but also if I get invited to a friends for tea/dinner I’ll go and the kids will just go to bed a bit later – no harm done for us. I was stricter with my first child I HAD to have him nap in his cot for a 1 hour morning nap and a two hour afternoon nap. My second baby sleeps in a sling while I get on with my day. I would never have done that with my son because everyone told me that I would create a clingy baby- I wish I had never listened slings have revolutionised my life. I now believe baby’s are supposed to be clingy! They’re babies! I sound like a mad earth mama and I’m really not, I am quite normal I assure you xxx

  36. Georgie
    August 17, 2015 / 9:32 pm

    Just to add about the seven pm bedtime, I did that because I liked to feel that I had had an evening away from the children, even if I had to go upstairs for a few minutes to settle them back down if had some time to myself and with my husband. It made me feel normal especially after a hard/long day x

    • Gillian
      August 18, 2015 / 12:12 pm

      I was the same with my three Georgie. I think it’s important as a couple to still feel like you have that time to yourselves to let yourselves wind down from a busy day. I always had a fairly firm bedtime for mine once they hit 12 months & it worked well for us. My no one rule was that they slept in their own beds, unless unwell then I’d have them sleep across the bottom of my feet so I could monitor temp etc or if they were sick and that worked really well for us, mine were all good sleepers, though my son (middle) did go through a wakeful stage after having slept through, then he settled back down again to a regular sleep through pattern. You just have to go with each child individually don’t you. You learn to read them and what they need routine wise. I also had the ‘rash’ panic. No one told me that they can get a rash when they’re under the weather with a cold or whatever and when it’s baby no one you tend to pick up on every single tiny thing. Better safe than sorry I always say. And we’ve all had those days where baby just can’t be consoled, whether it’s teething, colic or just feel off, they’re hard days but we come through. Angelica looks an absolute beauty Ruth and I love the way you’re looking at her in this picture. Just carry on going with the flow as you are, it seems to be working a treat.

  37. Nyree
    August 17, 2015 / 11:40 pm

    Hi Ruth, you are doing something right as Angelica is such a delightful happy little baba. And you are amazing. You have been open, honest and frank throughout this whole journey and it’s a privilage to be included. Thank you for sharing with us all. Xx

  38. Jan Kelley
    August 18, 2015 / 4:20 am

    Thank you for sharing. I love your posts. You and baby Angelica are beautiful. I think you’re right in keeping your c section scar dry. I had abdominal surgery for ovarian cancer and was told to make sure I kept my scar dry. I used a hairdryer set on the lowest temperature. I can certainly understand how you must have felt when having to deal with non stop crying. I think you made an excellent move in having her checked out. It’s always better to be safe. Take care and all of you be well.<3

  39. August 18, 2015 / 5:27 am

    reading your post I kept smiling until I reaced the scar update.
    I hope it will be better soon, but I kind of know what you’ve been going through, and wish you all the very very best.

    The doctor’s ‘gentle’ examination is just beyond words.

    Again, just all the very best, and I’m sorry for quite dry words here, it’s just a bit emotional to me.

  40. Rachael
    August 18, 2015 / 7:39 am

    Don’t rush into a routine – Google ‘the fourth trimester’ and keep things relaxed a bit longer 🙂 I started a routine at 15 weeks and we settled into it immediately. I read Gina Ford and Tracey Hogg and took the bits that made sense to me from both, coming up with a routine that suited my baby perfectly. It’s evolved as he’s grown (now 21 months) and he has slept through almost every night since then, bar illness, when all bets are off 🙂 he still sleeps 13 hours every night and 2 hours during the day, which is great for me as I need my sleep too!
    Hope the C section scar continues to heal well and yes, all babies have those days where they just cry. You’ll soon figure out if she’s overtired/overstimulated and needs a nap. It might get worse after vaccinations, it always did for us, I used a sling and a cranial osteopath. I’m not as much of a hippie as I sound, honest 🙂

  41. Sinead
    August 18, 2015 / 8:53 am

    http://www.johnlewis.com/slumber-bear-premium-cream/p230653169, this is a link for a slumber bear. I bought one when i was expecting my first child. I now have two children. The bear is great as it has a setting for sounds the baby hears while in the womb. Baby find it very comforting for up to the age of 2. Its great for wake ups anytime day or night. for the first couple of months i would leave it beside baby so if baby started to cry, this would kick in and play sounds for 5 mins. Out of all the things i bought and got as gifts, this was the best for settling baby. Hope this help. Your baby is beaufiful and i wish you all a lifetime of happiness together. I lost 3 babies over 5 years so i am delighted to have two healthy babies one of each sex. Wishing you all the best.

  42. gracie
    August 18, 2015 / 9:02 am

    Had/have the same weird sore spots on my scar too! Thought they might be ingrown hairs too, weird. My doctor said all normal. The smiles are pure joy. Enjoying following along coz I’m pretty much going through the same things!

  43. Rebecca
    August 18, 2015 / 9:17 am

    Hi! Just a quick idea on what may help the C-sect scar heal better. I’ve had four children and I’ve teared terribly down there with all of them and have had an episiotomy as well. On the advice of my midwife and nurses I would always have a salt sit (a shallow bath just covering the stiches – for yours you could pour saline water over it) about a large handful of sea salt dissolved in warm water and then dry with a hairdryer. Do this every time you bathe. The salt cleans and heals and the heat from the dryer heals and obvs keep the area dry which aids in healing. I swore by this routine and I’ve had amazing healing and no infections.

    On the ‘baby routine’ thing – we had a routine (wake feed play sleep) from birth with all four of our kids and now that they’re getting older (the oldest is 7 and my youngest is 13 months) the rewards of a relaxed routine are all worth it. We’ve found a good routine gives stability in sleep and feeding and when they are upset it’s easy to eliminate the cause because their hunger and sleep patterns are more stable. You still get the growth spurts which cause waking through the night and so on, but it does give you peace of mind and also the much needed downtime (when they’re asleep or playing on their own). We also found using a playpen for a little bit every day (increase the time and variety of toys as they got older) an absolute lifesaver. You could put the baby down safely and happily while you did dinner or just relaxed for a minute ; )

    All the best!
    Becs

    • Gillian
      August 18, 2015 / 12:16 pm

      I totally agree, play pens are a genius invention, I used them for all 3 of mine.

  44. Natalia
    August 18, 2015 / 11:04 am

    Hi Ruth, I think you are doing pretty well. My little boy is four months today and I adore him but I struggle a lot with the fact that we are alone and pretty much at home all the time, I feel lonely, bored and tired. He is fuzzy because he has silent reflux so it’s very difficult. My family live in a different country so I’ve been alone since day one… Well I have an amazing hubby but he works all day long.

    I had a horrible forceps delivery so I was in bed for an entire month with a catheter… Doing so much better now though. The human body is amazing and whatever the experience it will recover.

    My belly at 2 months was still very big with saggy skin, I used to feel so bad and even cry about it. Now at 4 months and without exercise is looking better. Still needs to go down but believe me, it will go down. I had a diastasis rectis of 21/2 CMS and it is also healing slowly.

    Hormones play a significant role in laxity of tissues, once your hormones go back to normal you will recover muscle tone and elasticity in the skin.

    One good thing about getting a belly that takes Time to shrink is less risk of stretch marks so try to think in the positives 🙂 at least that’s what I do.

    When in bed flex your knees and when exhaling try to draw your belly button in, that’s a good easy excercise that will help you to recover your belly.

    You are looking amazing!

    N xxx

  45. Susan Schaefer
    August 18, 2015 / 11:53 am

    I remember so clearly calling our doctor when our little one wouldn’t stop crying late one night. He sweetly met us at his office and opened up just for us – told me that it is always better to check when they are so tiny. He checked her from head to toe (of course on the ride over she had fallen sound asleep!), pronounced her fine and healthy and said maybe it was a bit of colic. I felt so much better having taken her. What if it really had been a problem and we hadn’t gone? I say always trust your instincts. You know more than you think you do.

    I love your blog! Thank you for keeping it up during what I know is a very busy, tiring time

  46. Angeline
    August 18, 2015 / 1:21 pm

    Oh Ruth, congratulations! Baby Angelica is such an angel – she looks so adorable and beautiful with that smile! I’m so sorry about your scar, I hope you get it all sorted out and recovered as soon as possible! Can’t wait for more updates x

    http://www.angerawrs.co.uk

  47. Freya
    August 18, 2015 / 3:27 pm

    I love reading these monthly updates, so interesting to see how she’s changing. When you were saying about “sleeping through the night” I had a little chuckle because I remember my mother telling me that I never slept through the night until the age of 3, hoping that my kids and Angelica might be a little easier.

    • August 18, 2015 / 4:51 pm

      Yeah my Mum said that too! Payback!

  48. Fiona Lavery
    August 18, 2015 / 5:56 pm

    I am 27 and a married mum of two (not sure why i had to tell you I’m married but I always get those “looks and mutters” from people who just expect someone at my age to be a single mother!) I know exactly how you feel being overwhelmed, especially when i had my little boy. He was my second and people just expect you to be able to cope. Its good to have a little meltdown every now and then, it helps you appreciate the good days more. Don’t worry about the routine thing either, you will find your family will naturally fall into your own routine. Keep enjoying the little things, it all goes so fast! x

    • August 18, 2015 / 7:24 pm

      Haha, so true though – why do we feel the need to pop the married bit in? Or “been together for ten years” or whatever. We are a funny bunch. x

  49. Nicola
    August 18, 2015 / 7:18 pm

    Hi Ruth!

    I’ve been following your videos and blogs since your pregnancy reveal as I was pregnant too. Julianna’s now seven weeks old. Congratulations, Angelica is gorgeous and I love her name (it was in my top ten list, I like long names).

    Julianna’s been crying a lot lately, too. I’ve felt ‘plugged in’ to her at night she’s been so unsettled, last night was a feeding marathon from 8pm to 1am!! A fellow mum at my local breastfeeding support group recommended an app called The Wonder Weeks. It’s based on studies of babies brain development and every six weeks or so they will have a ‘leap’, making them fussier and unsettled as their brains change. It’s fascinating! Basically it let me know that it was all normal and all I could do was spoil Julianna rotten (more so) with cuddles and the extra feeds until it passes.

    Big hugs to you! We’ve survived this far, so we can cope with anything now. I think.
    Nicola x x

    • August 19, 2015 / 9:35 pm

      Oh what an absolutely beautiful name! I shall download that app now, thank you xx

  50. nicola
    August 18, 2015 / 8:02 pm

    My daughter had a few days of crying for what seemed like the whole day. We went to a baby photoshoot when she was 11 days old, which i was dreading. They used a white noise app and she slept the whole way through. So whenever ahe got upset at home we put white noise in and it worked wonders, especially if she wasn’t settling when going to sleep. Now my daughter is almost 6 months and is such a happy baby, i look back and think how much she has changed. Enjoy every day with your daughter. Oh and congratulations x

    • August 19, 2015 / 9:29 pm

      She doesn’t seem to like the white noise that much but LOVES her Galaxy Mobile thing! Just a shame it’s massive and has to be fixed to a cot!

  51. Beke Norris
    August 18, 2015 / 10:50 pm

    Hi Ruth,
    I found that Gina ford’s sleep guide was brilliant with my son and will be doing the same when our daughter is born (in 4 weeks time). It was common sense, flexible and really helped to understand babies sleep stages and needs. She believe in getting bubs into a routine as early as possible before any undesired sleep habits developed, and that is what I found. My son wasn’t an “easy” baby, it was just a sensible and easy routine to follow…and totally adaptable. Hope this helps, g check it out 🙂

  52. Emma
    August 19, 2015 / 9:28 am

    Hello! My baby is 3 months old now – crazy! But we have never bothered with a strict routine and it has worked for us. She was similar – went about 4 hours between feeds until about 10 weeks then started eating more every 3 hours and sleeping for 9-12 hours overnight (we are bottle feeding due to inverted nipples – over share). She goes to sleep at night anywhere from 8pm to 10.30pm and I just let her call the shots. We do a bath, pyjamas and last bottle routine but just whenever her last feed falls, not at a set time. Trying to get a baby to sleep when it doesn’t want to seems like more bother than it’s worth! Same with her day time naps – I put her down to sleep when she looks tired and she gets up when she’s ready.

    We also ended up in A&E with crying. Called NHS 24 and they sent an ambulance. She of course stopped crying and fell fast asleep as soon as the ambulance started moving and stayed asleep for the entire time we were sat in the hospital. Embarrassing. But hey, it’s a bloody steep learning curve! But it gets better and better. I was terrified to be alone with her but feel a lot more capable now as she is easier to entertain and soothe. Still have our moments but I wouldn’t change it for the world! All the best xx

    • August 19, 2015 / 11:28 am

      I’m so grateful to the NHS for being so good about babies, I appreciate them so much! : )

  53. Nick Barton
    August 19, 2015 / 3:45 pm

    Crikey reading your posts brings it all back! My boys are now 10 and 11. Remember the crying though, I walked round and round my kitchen singing Mr Sandman. I didn’t really do routine and they both slept in our bed (the horror!!) but both turned out fine 🙂 Angelica looks like an absolute smasher, enjoy every minute. x

  54. Rebecca
    August 19, 2015 / 9:24 pm

    Ruth, I am about to have my first baby on 24th August (well, that’s the due date anyway lol) and the past few days J have really gotten in a tizz about the fact I am actually HAVING A BABY and I have been feeling a bit emotional. Your blog is so lovely and makes me feel so excited and positive, thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us! I’m feeling a bit more prepared and calm the more I read 🙂 xx

    • August 19, 2015 / 9:32 pm

      Ah, so pleased Rebecca! How exciting that you’re about to meet your little one! : )

  55. Lucy
    August 20, 2015 / 10:56 am

    Oh I so remember these days, I took my little girl to the hospital adamant there was something wrong with her as she had screamed ALL day – I came away with the diagnosis that she was very tired!! Mine are now 7 and 3, and I do remember more so with my 7 year old having days feeling very alone especially as when you said hubby was at work, grandparents away etc, it’s nice to read others have these down days too, I wish I’d had your blog to read back then! I’ve just found out I am 8 weeks pregnant and I’m feeling pretty terrified of going back to the baby stages and sleepless nights, but reading your blog makes me giggle and is making me feel excited for what’s to come so thank you xxx

    • August 20, 2015 / 11:14 am

      Oh my God CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! : )

  56. August 20, 2015 / 8:05 pm

    Many first time mommies, even second and third time mommies, feel overwhelmed. So it just comes with the territory, I am told by professionals lol. I feel overwhelmed on a daily basis. What I was told is that we are expecting perfection from ourselves and want to be perfect parents. But there is no perfection, it is not possible. we will screw up. we just have to make sure that we don’t let those panicky moments get us frustrated or depressed. Everyday is a new one with new challenges and ways to conquer them.

    I have suffered from depression even before I got pregnant and it has gotten worse since the second trimester and after giving birth. Please make sure that if you, or anyone who is reading, feels do overwhelmed, that they are detached from their babies and loved ones, talk to your doctor right away. I am getting better thank God but it was really bad for a while. there is no shame in admitting those feelings because so many mommies go through this. It happens, and there are many ways/options to fix it or to make you feel better.

  57. Rachel
    August 23, 2015 / 7:35 pm

    Yes! When my baby was about 6 weeks I tried to start a routine a la Gina ford…..it was the worst day of my life. I called my husband and said I couldn’t do it. Couldn’t be off with his baby for a yr. it actually works better when you do a routine which is the baby’s routine if you are breast feeding. Otherwise you are fighting a losing battle.

    I’m currently in the bath, said baby is 2 yrs 7 months and in bed, but I can hear toys and musical toys going off… It does get a lot better, but there is always a night when you lose lol. X

  58. SouthernSony
    August 25, 2015 / 3:55 am

    Hi Ruth! Take it easy, it’s all normal. As regards the size of our bellies at this time, don’t worry too much. I started exercising four months after delivering, but it was too soon. I had to stop after a month or so, because my little daughter sipped away more and more of my energies… Being quite slim myself, normally, that was a tragedy. I felt exhausted! The doctor said baby could start taking in food only at MONTH 6. A relief when that time came. That would be the best moment to start some physical activity, which will help you “feel yourself again”. Best luck! 😀

  59. Georgie
    August 26, 2015 / 10:52 pm

    Ha! Re being panic-stricken which never happened to me with child minding, nieces etc…(thank God – but very weirdly with my dog when she was elderly, I kept calling the vet every two seconds about everything) BUT it is completely natural. Better safe than sorry. Doctors are used to anxious first-time mums… When I was a baby, I slept so much that my mum was convinced that I was sick and that the doctors who kept saying “every baby is different” were mistaken! My older sister screamed incessantly so when I came along and slept through the night or day, hours on end, without waking up to be fed, my mum was convinced that I wasn’t right. She used to have to wake me up. A mystery but all the relatives and friends were envious. I remained suspiciously placid until I was 18 and then all hell broke loose….

  60. Jem
    August 27, 2015 / 3:06 am

    I am totally stuck as well with the routine thing. Feed on demand but implement a bedtime. I have no idea how. Also getting my baby to go to sleep himself is impossible. Onwards and upwards though. Love this blog

    • August 27, 2015 / 6:54 am

      Thanks Jem, onwards and upwards indeed. I’m with you! ; )

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