Baby and Body: 1 Month Update

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Right. Apologies. I meant to start this at week 1 and give you all the gory details (bodily fluids, bruises, etc) but the time has absolutely flown by and I now have a baby who is ONE MONTH OLD and a C-section scar that has healed nicely and an arm that no longer bears the marks of a completely inept attempt at inserting a cannula. (More on that in the “not for the squeamish” post that I have in my drafts folder. It’s sat there with the half-finished posts on breastfeeding, top newborn baby products, my birth story, something rambly about breech babies and a rant about how the media deals with the subject of infertility. I’ll get to them, I promise.)

So: a “month one” update, in which I’ll try to give you a brief history lesson on what’s been going on with baby Angelica (sshhh, keep it between us!) and with my body.

Baby: birth weight was 9lbs 11oz and after two days she had dropped to 9lbs 7oz but was back up to her birth weight by day five. So that was all good. At her three week weigh-in she was 10lbs 1oz and I’m pretty sure that she has gained around five thousand kilos since then, because I am developing biceps and shoulders that a wrestler would be proud of. She feeds a lot in the evening (on and off for about six hours!) but tends to sleep for around four or five hours at a time otherwise. I feel extraordinarily lucky that she sleeps for five or even six hours overnight (usually midnight until five thirty and then after a little feed, from about six am until ten or eleven) but I know that babies change constantly and so I’m enjoying this perk while I can!

I had very mixed opinions from Midwives and Health Visitors about the baby sleeping for more than three or four hours at a time: some wanted me to wake her up every three hours to feed her, others said that she was putting on loads of weight and so it was absolutely fine. I worried for a while and tried to wake her after three or four hours, but she wasn’t having any of it and eventually I realised that it was absolutely RIDICULOUS to be trying to force her to feed when she was very happily laying down her own set of rules. After a week or so of panicking (cheers, health people who can never agree on anything and give contradictory advice!) I spoke to a very good midwife who said, very calmly, that I had a big baby who was putting on weight, feeding well and sleeping when she wanted to and to enjoy every minute of sleep that I got. Which is what I’ve been doing.

Body: my C-section scar healed quickly but I was too squeamish to even look at it until last week. (Apart from that, I have a weird saggy belly flap thing that obscures my view of the nether regions and so looking at my scar, which sits on the bikini line at the very bottom of my abdomen, wasn’t all that easy.) I was quite taken aback about the whole C-section experience: it wasn’t a procedure that I had really researched or prepared myself for. Looking back, I’ll admit that there’s a certain arrogance to the way that I assumed I would never need one – I’ll hold my hands up and put that out there – but then after speaking to friends who have also needed emergency caesarians, they assumed the same thing. That they would have a natural birth, with no complications, because they had sailed through pregnancy without too much of a problem and had been labelled “low risk”. It was a total shock to me that my birth didn’t turn out as planned and I do wish that I had at least skim-read the sections on assisted births and c-sections and so on, but then perhaps it was better that I went in with my “positive mental attitude” that I had developed from reading the natural and hypnobirthing books, because as it turned out I was reasonably okay, mentally, with the course that the birth took and I managed to stay as calm as could be expected when a person has a near-phobia of hospitals and a morbid and over-active imagination.

Where was I? C-section. Yes. God, I’m putting my heart on a plate today, aren’t I? I’m virtually asking to be trolled! I was quite surprised at what a major operation it was – I had never really considered that before. When I tried to walk for the first time it was as though someone had removed all of my stomach muscles – I had to hobble to the loo almost doubled over because there was simply no strength in my core to hold myself upright. Nothing hurt, because they pump you full of painkillers (and I took the lot, on advice of the doctor, because apparently if you feel pain then you’re less likely to get yourself up and about and it’s not good to be sedentary and totally bed-ridden after a c-section) but I was incredibly squeamish and had to kind of turn my brain off to be able to go to the toilet. (The two Cs: cannula and catheter. I’ll save those for another post, shall I?)

By the way, none of this is supposed to be scary or “horror-story”: it was all perfectly manageable and alright, really. You know how I hate horror birth stories! It wasn’t the birth I had expected but it was pretty straightforward in that there were no complications or dramas with the c-section. Finding out that my baby was breech after about a million people had “felt the head engaged” was something of a spanner in the old works, but hey! What’s life if there aren’t a few surprises?

Body, body, body…what else? My boobs are huge. Porn star huge. Which has its pros and cons. Pros are mainly that I can balance things on them, and look in the mirror and pretend to be an adult movie “personality”: cons are many and various. The bazoomers are heavy, for a start, and comfy bras just don’t do the job in terms of support. They also make me look about twenty pounds heftier than I actually am, in a kind of matronly way. But they are doing a good job with the baby-feeding (more on that in another post) which is the whole idea, so I’m not complaining. If they look like marbles in a sock when I’ve finished with the feeding: then I’ll be complaining!

My skin continues to be good – no spots or dry patches. It’s actually the best it’s ever been, apart from my eye bags and dark circles, which – if I have no concealer on – make me look like an extra in a zombie movie. I try to make an effort to put on a bit of Bare Minerals Complexion Enhancer and concealer straight after moisturising just to make myself look and feel a bit more alive. If I miss the cosmetics window (the two minutes after brushing my teeth) then I spend the day avoiding mirrors and wondering why the dog is hiding under the table.

That’s all to report, really, for month one: lots of baby growth from baby and daytime-tv-watching from me. There were a few things that took me by surprise, post-birth: I didn’t realise, for a start, that you bleed for weeks or that breast milk actually squirted out in a high-powered stream, like a cow, but I want to address these in a more direct way elsewhere. Also: what the hell are you supposed to wear when you’re in large, high-waisted knickers (needed to hold maternity pads in place and also to avoid chafing the c-section scar) and need to be able to breastfeed every thirty seconds? I’ll be tackling that particular sartorial problem next week.

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108 Comments

  1. July 17, 2015 / 2:54 pm

    So many honest points here – I too was totally unprepared for my section, mostly because my first wasn’t! Babies like to do things in their own way, huh?!

  2. July 17, 2015 / 3:01 pm

    thank you so much for sharing her name with us, and what a beautiful and apt name it is! You continue to be a source of hope for me on this increasingly difficult and emotional journey and its lovely to see you’re enjoying every second with your precious little girl.
    Anna xxx

  3. trina
    July 17, 2015 / 3:03 pm

    Your daughter is beautiful!!!

  4. Ola
    July 17, 2015 / 3:16 pm

    oh Ruth she is so beautiful!! Those cheeks, I just want to squish them!! Congrats again and I hope your enjoying being a family of 5! X

  5. jane
    July 17, 2015 / 3:30 pm

    Wow massive congratulations – it all sounds so exciting! May you only experience health and happiness with your beautiful princess and I look forward to reading more posts and getting to know your little angel! Xxxxxxx

  6. S J S
    July 17, 2015 / 3:33 pm

    This is brilliant. I found for the first month after having my son it was impossible to find anything flattering to wear…or even practical! Combinations of vest tops and leggings were all that saw me through. And scarves and cardigans!
    You’re doing great! Love following your blogs and Instagram. X

  7. Rosie
    July 17, 2015 / 3:35 pm

    Hi Ruth,

    Try and get fitted for a proper nursing bra at Bravissimo and then pop onto the figleaves website and take your pick!

    Cake are a good bet, and shock absorber do great soft cup sports bras!

    Oh and congratulations! you are going to make a wonderful mum!

  8. L
    July 17, 2015 / 3:43 pm

    Congratulations, she is lovely! I love these updates. As someone who is currently struggling to get pregnant, it’s nice to vicariously enjoy your happy ending to what can be a stressful journey!

  9. Chris
    July 17, 2015 / 3:47 pm

    Ruth, I’m so happy to hear you are doing well!! You are handling everything wonderfully and I’m happy you are letting baby sleep. It is so hard to figure out who to listen to advice from, but you have decided baby Anjelica (just a beautiful name BTW!) is the one to listen to, which is beyond perfect!! My daughter just turned 7 weeks (also after years of infertility and miscarriage) so I have been along with you for the ride. I was the exact opposite. All babies on my mothers side have been born by cesarean so I assumed I would have one and went in with that from of mind. My baby was the first vaginal birth in decades. Recovering from my episiotomy has had me wondering if that is actually a good thing, lol. It has been brutal. I’m not sure what is worse. Having your abdominal muscles sliced through, or someone taking a scissors to your beaten down vagina. *ponders* I understand not wanting to look at your scar. Believe me, I’m not wanting to look at mine after my doctor used the phrase “permanently disfigured” in regards to how my episiotomy was healing at my last office visit… Just lovely I tell you!

    P.S. Last night baby slept for 7.5 hours!! PARTY!

  10. Nia
    July 17, 2015 / 3:55 pm

    It’s so bizarre reading your posts is like reading something an old friend has written, not a total stranger! I also feel just as happy for you as I would a friend 🙂 Thank you for being so open and hilarious as always. What an absolutely beautiful little girl.

  11. July 17, 2015 / 3:58 pm

    Baby Angelica, gorgeous name! Congratulations again Ruth xxx

  12. Julie
    July 17, 2015 / 4:27 pm

    I adore you Ruth…I could read/listen to you all day…congrats on baby “A” …
    I’m with you in a kind of spirit…recovering from hysterectomy…so yeah…pain, belly, scars and bikinis…
    Wishing you and your beautiful family all the luck in the world…much love xxx

  13. Lidhan
    July 17, 2015 / 5:04 pm

    Oh I’m so delighted for you Ruth!! I’ve been waiting patiently to read this update 🙂 She is SO cute, you must be thrilled! Hope Dexter and Mr. Bear aren’t too put out by her little arrival 😉 Can’t wait to hear more!! xx

  14. July 17, 2015 / 5:32 pm

    She’s a beauty Ruth! Can’t wait for more updates. I read everything on here even though I’m not pregnant nor expect to be anytime soon. Hope your family is doing well xx

  15. Natalie
    July 17, 2015 / 6:04 pm

    Beautiful! What a lovely baby and so very happy for you and your family!!!

    Oh and as another Emcsection mum..the big pants are great with floaty summer dresses.

    Thank you for sharing your lovely family with us Ruth x

  16. July 17, 2015 / 6:08 pm

    Aw Angelica is a gorgeous name Ruth! I watch One Born Every Minute and I love your openness about the real side behind labour and delivery. Well done you on getting through it all with a happy, healthy baby. She is beautiful! xx

    Rebecca

  17. Lisa
    July 17, 2015 / 6:38 pm

    What a gorgeous photo. Haven’t read the whole post – just dashing out but need to quickly say what an exquisite name! Absolutely love it and she looks just like a little angel! ( no doubt she has her moments) – you must be so very proud – congratulations Ruth and Mr AMR!!
    Lisa x

  18. Kate
    July 17, 2015 / 6:44 pm

    Hi Ruth – congratulations! As far as sleeping and feeding goes I had exactly the same conflicting advice from the midwives and health visitors (and my baby is now 20!) so I ended up listening to my mum who raised 5 healthy children – your baby will tell you when they are hungry – and never wake a sleeping baby. Worked a treat for me!

  19. July 17, 2015 / 6:46 pm

    Ruth, I REALLY love your sense of both humor and reality. It is refreshing and I appreciate it every time I read your posts. 🙂

  20. Kathryn
    July 17, 2015 / 6:51 pm

    Aw she’s adorable! I’m sure you and Mr AMR are both extremely taken with her. She sounds like an angel. Ignore what the ‘professionals’ say, you’ll know what’s best for her.

  21. Evie
    July 17, 2015 / 6:53 pm

    Excellent post Ruth

  22. Evie
    July 17, 2015 / 6:56 pm

    Excellent post Ruth! The newborn stage is crazy isn’t it? I’m so happy for you 🙂

  23. July 17, 2015 / 7:25 pm

    A beautiful name for a beautiful baby! So glad that you’re both doing well! xx

  24. Anne
    July 17, 2015 / 7:39 pm

    Oohh She is beautiful and I loved this post! I want more! 🙂

  25. Gisela Spener
    July 17, 2015 / 7:42 pm

    Dear Ruth,
    What an amazing journey. I have not had children, though I am in my fifties but hearing your sharings both fascinated me and alarmed me. Oh my how does one go out in public with all that fluid issues going on.
    You look as peaceful as a saint I must say through the whole thing and what an absolute little angel. She is so gorgeous. Just gives me goosebumps to look at her little self there.
    Do hope no nasty trolls find your beautiful blog. I love it and wait with baited breath for the next installment.

    Much love to your whole family.
    xx

  26. Kate
    July 17, 2015 / 8:01 pm

    My boy is 7 weeks and everything you have just said rings so true for me (except the c-section stuff as I didn’t have one). I too am breastfeeding which as been going brilliantly until a week ago when my breasts decided to act as explosive hose pipes which I swear at times are nearly drowning my poor boy! My husband however finds it hilarious that I am able to spray milk across the other side of the room! So glad your getting in well, beautiful name too x

  27. Sandie
    July 17, 2015 / 8:03 pm

    Gorgeous photo of your beautiful little daughter and you look totally radiant! Gosh, one month old already! So pleased all is going well for you both. Loved your eloquent commentary (The 2 “C”s.. classic!) today, look forward to your next post when you find some time!

  28. July 17, 2015 / 8:30 pm

    WELCOME BABYGIRL!!! *squuezes Angelica inappropriately hard for the next 20/25 years*

  29. July 17, 2015 / 9:13 pm

    Angelica! What a beautiful name. You look wonderful and your daughter does too. Your post made me laugh, even though its been a long time since I was in your shoes. I’m looking forward to reading more about this amazing journey your on. Hope Mr AMR isn’t still too shell shocked by the whole thing. We tend to forget the poor fathers. They have to adjust too. Minus the boob thing and living in pads for various parts of the body ……ummm….. Keep well and take care.

    Ali xx

  30. Lisa
    July 17, 2015 / 9:17 pm

    Glad you’re both doing well. Same thing with my son. He wanted no part of waking up to eat so I let him sleep and the doctor thought he was on solids he grew so much in 2 weeks! The good thing is after the 6 weeks of bleeding, you. Probably won’t get your period while you’re breastfeeding. hope you get settled in your house soon!

  31. Ursa
    July 17, 2015 / 9:22 pm

    I love little Angelica’s name. 🙂 She is a beauty already, like her mum. 🙂 My mum had a C-section when I was born (I was sitting comfortably on my bum in mum’s belly with no intention of trying to fit through birth canal) and she is also a midwife and always says it’s a big operation, bigger than people realize. But anyway what I wanted to say is I like this updates you write, they are funny and happy (eye bags and dark circles included) and I enjoy reading them. 🙂 Thank you for sharing this special time with us.

  32. Kim
    July 17, 2015 / 9:24 pm

    I had the same issue with hv and feeding! Ignore them!

  33. Magda
    July 17, 2015 / 9:35 pm

    Enjoying your post 😉 Not that I don’t feel sorry for bleeding or c-section but I just remembered it all from my experience (more or less as I haven’t had a c-section but natural birth in 34 week of pregnancy with my husband abroad, so also an element of surprise). And you could make of it a very scary story but I hate them as you do and it really was fine and all turned out good so there were no dramas.
    And huge boobs may really look great for some people but they made me feel kind of like you feel so I’m greatfull they got back to my tiny size after 13 months of breastfeeding (I know some people would call me crazy but I really prefer it that way), as that made me feel like myself again (I’m sure that wearing bra at night helped with that, but I used more comfy once than during a day as it gave enough support while sleeping or lying most of the time).
    And now I’m pregnant with my second child and I’m curious what will surprise me this time 😉
    Btw I’m moving next month and I started to organize things at my place and I just can say ‘big respect’ for you moving so many times, I don’t know how have you done it and not went crazy 😉
    Cheers!

  34. Vonny
    July 17, 2015 / 10:43 pm

    I’ve worked (as a nanny) with babies and children for 17 years and it sounds like you are doing pretty good.

    Fantastic that she sleeps so well at night!! You must have good milk!

    Can’t wait to read all the upcoming blogs! I love your honest truth.

  35. Annabel Les
    July 17, 2015 / 10:59 pm

    Congrats on your gorgeous baby. Enjoyed reading your post very much. It was very sassy and informative. Can’t wait for more, gory details and all.

  36. Sara
    July 17, 2015 / 11:10 pm

    Ahhh Ruth what a perfect little name 🙂 xx

  37. eve bisset
    July 17, 2015 / 11:16 pm

    Love your post and congrats on angelica what a beautiful name

  38. Cherie
    July 18, 2015 / 12:24 am

    Thanks for continuing to write even when you’ve got a baby to look after!
    It’s always interesting to read your first hand experience.
    I’m a medic and I really feel that women should be much more informed about pregnancy and birth. I think your blog will help a lot of people!

  39. Jay
    July 18, 2015 / 12:58 am

    Oh, nothing wrong with your baby sleeping for a long time. My mum tells me I used to go to sleep at around 6 pm then stay asleep until next morning. She also tried to wake me up but, as you said, my weight was fine and I was (I assume) happy that way.

  40. July 18, 2015 / 2:10 am

    Ruth, thank you so much for continuing to share your personal experience with Angelica (!!) and post-birth life with us. It’s always a joy to read what you have to say, but I especially appreciate this insight into motherhood from you. I continue to wish you and the rest of the AMR Clan the best health and happiness 🙂

  41. July 18, 2015 / 2:11 am

    Also, Miss Angelica is gorgeous :'( 🙂

  42. Melody
    July 18, 2015 / 2:25 am

    I love you Ruth!!! You are such a joy to read!!! Both you and your beautiful baby Angelica are so lucky to have each other!!! God bless you and your family!!! I look forward to your posts!!!

  43. July 18, 2015 / 3:14 am

    This post reminded me of my experiences, in a surreal way.
    It seems like ages ago but it was exactly 14 months ago. Oh the boobs!!! is the first thing I thought of when I saw the title. Port star knockers, exactly. No one described them better. They hurt and leaked like no tomorrow. They had a mind of their own. My mom bought me a breastfeeding friendly dress for after the birth, and I couldn’t get my boons out to feed my LO because they could not fit in the neck/chest hole. I pretty much sat in a chair, rook my arms out of the neck hole and pretty much let it fall. Even though I wear a headscarf, I tried to sit behind a curtain so that it is not a top less show for the men passing by, but honestly I was so dazed that I could really care less.

    I also did my research on natural birth and only heard about the c-section option through the Labour and delivery classes that hubby and I went to. And the only thing I remembered was how I was saying to hubby the whole time: nope nope nope nope…
    after 12 hours of labour, with LOs heart rate going down every time a contraction happened, it ended up bing an emergency c-section. I also had the weird loose tire feeling around my belly. Hubby kept telling me how good I looked for someone who just gave birth. I still remember the horror u saw when I was able to go to the washroom and saw what I looked like. Old lady from the old Tom and Jerry cartoons was nothing. I had the advantage of double D breast when I started with b/c. I now realize my hubby’s focal point was my chestal area and that’s why he said what he said/lied.

    I also had bleeding and ended up using depends for a while. I had to wear tights along with underwear to make sure that I didn’t lose anything wobbling down the hallway of the hospital.

    LO ended up losing more that 10% of his body weight within two days. He was tongue tied, which is a real thing. I still remember the feeling of guilt from the nurses pretty much blaming me for him not feeding well. He would only try to latch on for so long and then give up. And to top it off, his breathing and heart rate were affected because of a medication I was being given. I was assured by all the specialits I met that it was the safest out there. Come to find out that my LO was the 1 in a 100th case. I don’t think I will ever lose the feeling of guilt I had from the moment I had to leave him in the incubator. The tears he and my hubby cried tear me up to this day. The tongue tie was easily fixed by a specialist who had a class of nurses with her. She had a plastic clip holding his tongue and with a little blade just snipped. Then he was feeding like a champ 🙂

    sorry for the long comment, I don’t think I told anyone any of this. Thanks for sharing your journey. I too had issues with fertility, and my pregnancy was a huge shock. I had myself believing that I was “barren” and will never hold my own baby in my arms.

  44. Angeline
    July 18, 2015 / 4:50 am

    Your girl is beautiful and gorgeous! xx

  45. Georgie
    July 18, 2015 / 7:40 am

    She is gorgeous Ruth well done you! I have my own inept cannula story but it’s really my poor little babies story, they took her away my husband went with but I was still numb so couldn’t stand. Sat in bed listening to her cry for 5 solid minutes she came out with no cannula husband said they’d tried to insert it five times and couldn’t do it. Another midwife came over asked if she could try but wouldn’t try if she wasn’t confudent she could do it, this midwife actually did a decent job. 24 hours later someone got her confused with another baby, removed the cannula said she’d finished her IV’s all midwives had this info in their handover notes. Turned out they were all wrong baby needed more IV’s so they put the cannula back into her foot! It was 4 am so I had no one with ME and I was crying my eyes out. Husband fuming the next day when he arrived all nurses denied responsibility of getting baby confused. I was eventually given a ridiculous story as to why it wasn’t their fault. All midwives on the ward hated me at this point because I wasn’t having their stories (I’m sounding like a total cow but was so emotional and wanted to be home with my other child) turned out neither of us even had an infection apparently I was only given anti biotics because my temp spiked a tiny tiny bit , surely this is to be expected after a c section, she was only given anti biotics because I was on them. I really hate hospitals!

  46. Claudia
    July 18, 2015 / 7:41 am

    Congratulations Ruth! Angelica is adorable!
    I had a baby last year and have been reliving the experience through your blog 🙂 Love your honesty and your funny takes on the ups and downs of pregnancy.
    Looking forward to reading more about your experiences in motherhood. I don’t know how you found the time but appreciate that you do!
    xx

  47. Pen
    July 18, 2015 / 7:43 am

    What a brilliant, informative and humorous post! Thanks Ruth and also for revealing baby AMR’ s lovely name! X

  48. Alison
    July 18, 2015 / 8:06 am

    Beautiful baby, beautiful name!
    I had 2 emergency sections. With the first, I was in my pj’s for about 6 weeks. I was totally unprepared and had no clothes that didn’t irritate the scar.
    Enjoy your baby, and the sleep also!

  49. Courtney
    July 18, 2015 / 8:08 am

    You look great and Angelica is gorgeous, beautiful name. You are so lucky getting so much sleep! She really must be an angel xo

  50. Sharron
    July 18, 2015 / 8:23 am

    Love reading your posts Ruth. And your baby is beautiful. Xx

  51. Vicki
    July 18, 2015 / 8:54 am

    Congrats on baby Angelica she’s gorgeous and sounds like you’re both doing my great!

    I have a randomish question though, how’s your pup coping with the new addition? We have a poodle cross yorkie (who looks not unlike your pup) and I’m a bit paranoid about how he’d cope. Any tips? x

  52. Ellie
    July 18, 2015 / 10:47 am

    Firstly, congratulations on the baby! And secondly, please don’t feel the need to shirk away from the nitty gritty. My mum had to get c-sections for my sister and I because we were all in danger, so the way the media go on about c-sections like they’re the worst thing ever really irks me! All that matters is that you and the baby are healthy and happy, and thanks so much for sharing your story with us!

  53. July 18, 2015 / 10:58 am

    I love your posts they are refreshingly honest and to the point. I am glad you are well. Take care and thank you again for highlighting issues we don’t often talk about x

  54. July 18, 2015 / 11:00 am

    Excellent post! Thanks for being real without any intention to scare. I’ve read through so many horror birth stories that I’ve nearly given up finding any mommy-blogs to enjoy, but I can always count on yours to have a dose of reality and humor. Looking forward to the next.

  55. Gillian
    July 18, 2015 / 11:26 am

    I’ve been longing to hear what you both chose to name her and I thank you for sharing it with us. What a beautiful name for a beautiful baby. She is clearly one very content baby and I could cheefully slap those who told you that you should wake her. I fed on demand, all 3 of mine and I also had very content babies. Why spoil a good thing!! Those are really good sleep periods that give you some time to rest yourself and do what needs doing.
    I think as well as the milk, your wonderful relaxed persona is making for a very chilled out baby. I hope Mr AMR is adjusting to being a daddy as well as you are to motherhood and I look forward to your other posts as they come, even the squeamish ones!! She’s precious Ruth, enjoy her.

  56. Evelyn Girasoli
    July 18, 2015 / 11:31 am

    Weird being in charge of a wee human isn’t it? You’re doing great though and seem very calm which is good as that passes to the baby. Beautiful name! Keep going with your instinct…..it’s definitely your best guide. Xxxx

  57. Amy Benjamin
    July 18, 2015 / 12:25 pm

    Oh Ruth – I love her! Baby Angelica AMR. <3
    As usual, all my love to your whole brood – yourself, Mr AMR, Angelica, Dexter and Mr Bear. Perfection xx

  58. Sophie T
    July 18, 2015 / 12:25 pm

    Ahhh Ruth! Tears in my eyes again – baby is as beautiful as her mother, as is her name! Congratulations to you and your hub. X

  59. Michelle
    July 18, 2015 / 1:39 pm

    She’s gorgeous – cheeks for daaayyyyzzz!

    I agree, let sleeping babies sleep!

  60. Janice
    July 18, 2015 / 2:06 pm

    Hi Ruth, how wonderful to hear your all doing so well, and what a beautiful name for your gorgeous daughter. I was right, as she was a late baby she is lovely and relaxed 🙂 But oh the midwife’s, they can turn you into a paranoid mother at the best of times. They focus too much on the babies weight and how often they are feeding etc. I ended up so worried about my first two daughters, as one was always underweight and the other was overweight, absolutely crazy. The one that was so called overweight was a very alert baby and so the midwife suggested feeding her more often, which turned into a nightmare, as then she was always topping up every two hours! Instead of having a proper feed every four to five hours as she previously did. So with the third daughter, I never went to weigh ins and didn’t listen to anything they mentioned about her weight and feeding. Go with your instincts as a mother every time Ruth, you know better than anyone when it comes to your daughter.
    Love to you, your husband and you precious daughter x

  61. Cathy
    July 18, 2015 / 2:09 pm

    Oh my goodness! She is so beautiful not that I’m suprised because you are stunning! I am glad you’re both healthy. I cannot wait to hear more! Lots of love and kisses xxxx

  62. Jo.C
    July 18, 2015 / 2:24 pm

    I was 7mths pregnant with my first and in work reading a pregnancy book (during lunch time) and read the part how you bleed for up to 6 weeks after birth, I think the out loud ‘WHAT! Noooooo!’ Took everyone by surprise too. Why doesn’t anti-natal classes warn you of this?

  63. Mary
    July 18, 2015 / 3:47 pm

    The baby is so cute!!! And what a beautiful name, Angelica. You look gorgeous, as always.
    xx

  64. Jennifer
    July 18, 2015 / 4:23 pm

    Sod the trolls!

    Your own account of pregnancy, birthing and beyond! Beautiful and thank you for sharing. I hope you are all very happy.

    X

  65. Kathi Kavanaugh
    July 18, 2015 / 4:34 pm

    Dear Ruth,
    Oh my, a perfect little angel, and a beautiful and
    wonderful Mom. My birthing days have long passed,
    as I have a 50 year old, and a 34 year old beautiful daughter, whom we adopted when she was 9 months.
    I would love to hear about your parents excitement
    with their new granddaughter! The utter joy I felt as a mother is maximized by the birth of our two incredible grandsons, who are 15 and almost 19. The blessings of your children and their children are one of the most wonderful of God’s greatest gifts. I am so thrilled for all of you. She is such a beauty. Congratulations!

  66. Ellen
    July 18, 2015 / 4:42 pm

    Oh, thanks for sharing. I can’t believe she is one month old. Wishing you all the best with these words ” a happy family is but an earlier heaven”.

  67. Eva
    July 18, 2015 / 4:50 pm

    Ruth, congrats again on your gorgeous girl!!!

    I want to thank you for your honesty, it’s so refreshing to read. As I am preparing for the whole baby game, this is a heavensent.

  68. July 18, 2015 / 7:11 pm

    I am so happy you are doing well. You look fantastic, so please don’t think that you don’t. As another person who is struggling with infertility, I am just so happy to read that you are and the baby are doing well (gives me hope that I can get pregnant). Keep us all posted.
    Hugs from NYC!

  69. Kasia
    July 19, 2015 / 8:50 am

    Dear Ruth,

    Happy to see you and the baby doing well! She is so delightful and beautiful. Wonderful name, too!

    I will be 32 weeks on Monday and I’d prefer to have natural birth unless something doesn’t go right in labor. This is natural way for a woman and a baby to do it rather than come to the world in a sterile surgery room. Indeed, this is a major surgery where they cut you open, pull out the baby and then you end up in stitches laying for 8-9 hours with catheter (at least in Poland) not being able to raise your head. Even a doctor asked me if I prefer natural birth or c-section and I said, of course, all natural and he said its a good choice unless something happens in the process to disturb it. But, I continue to think positively that it will be all good!
    I think a lot of women still think C-section is some sort o a shortcut in order not to go through the pain of natural birth, but what they don’t know is that they will feel like crap after the surgery and recovery time is longer.
    I have some pain in the ribs now so I switched from normal bras to sport bras with good support but no wires. Helped so much. These are apparently good when you breastfeed. And don’t forget the bra pads or this silicon-y ‘shells’ that cover your nipples.
    And yes, you do bleed down there and it takes around 6 weeks to heal there.

    So, please keep the fingers crossed for me and my little boy 🙂

    xx Kasia

  70. Annaclara
    July 19, 2015 / 10:27 am

    Congrats!You are so lucky!
    I’ve no children……I had a hysterectomy in my 20s …. I’m really pleased for you and love all your posts!
    I see you have a draft on infertility, so thank you…… Motherhood isn’t a right ….it’s a very precious gift. Blessings on the AMR family.

  71. July 19, 2015 / 10:37 am

    Dear Ruth

    Congratulations on the safe arrival of baby Angelica, she is so cute & dotie. What a beautiful name and thank you for sharing.

    I’ve love reading your posts on this journey, it’s like reading a letter from a friend. I’ve never experienced pregnancy etc. and unless I get my ar5e in gear and find a man it’ll likely not happen (35yo who thinks she’s 25 :)& needs to grow up )

    Mixed medical advice!! You do you, you know what your body needs. In your gut/heart you know what your daughter/family needs. You do you.

    I had a serious illness a few years ago and what I learned is listen. Listen to your body, head and heart they will tell you what you need. Our bodies are very smart. If what you are doing feels right for you then it probably is.

    After my sister had her little girl she felt like there was some kind of “omertà” about the weeks post birth. Everyone was losing their sh!t to tell you their birth story, but hell would they tell you to go buy granny pants and huge pads for all bodily fluids. It was her constant rant.

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. I can’t wait to hear more.
    Love & hugs to your little family,

    Lorna

  72. Catherine
    July 19, 2015 / 1:56 pm

    Hi Ruth – love the name Angelica. Is it from Thackeray’s ” The Rose and the Ring”? I loved the book as a child – apparently it’s supposed to be a satire but I just enjoyed it as a quirky fairy tale! Good luck with everything.

  73. Franzi
    July 19, 2015 / 4:20 pm

    So good to hear you´rer both allright!
    I just had a funny thought: you could use your famous initials AMR and now use it as Angelicas Mummy Recommnends 😉 hope this makes you laugh…

    All the best for your little family and with the house stuff furthermore!

    Hugs and kisses from germany
    Franzi

  74. Fran
    July 19, 2015 / 4:38 pm

    Ruth, what a beautiful baby!!! And mum, of course!!! I was waiting for a picture and this didn’t disappoint!! Enjoy being a mum!! Xx

  75. Jan Kelley
    July 19, 2015 / 7:12 pm

    I love the name you’ve chosen for your beautiful little girl. I wish you and your family continued joy and happiness. Thank you for sharing both your birth story and photos of your little angel. Be well.

  76. Courtney
    July 20, 2015 / 2:42 am

    Congratulations Ruth! Love her name. And let me tell you.. if your breasts AREN’T raisins in socks I will be so jealous. That is pretty much what happened to me… I have always been 32DD and after breastfeeding they are now saggy D’s… I can plump them up by gaining 10 lbs but who really wants to do that…. SIGH.

  77. Julia
    July 20, 2015 / 8:42 am

    Dear Ruth,

    Regarding the baby, the best piece of advice I was ever given, was by a very experienced doctor, who said that when it comes to babies, mothers know best. So, as other comments suggest, just follow your instinct. My baby lost a lot of weight in the first month, but is a perfectly normal 3 year old today. 😉

    Regarding the body: my oh my, I feel you! The bleeding and the squirting. Both will stop eventually but anyone’s guess when.

    Good luck and enjoy daytime TV! Good memories.

  78. Jo
    July 20, 2015 / 10:52 am

    Beautiful baby Ruth, congrats, love her name. You & I have had very similar journeys to motherhood so I enjoy following your story. I too have a little girl, 12 weeks old. Enjoy this precious time xx

  79. Christine
    July 20, 2015 / 12:56 pm

    Congratulations! I love reading all of your stories. Your honesty is so refreshing 🙂

  80. Kirsty espley
    July 20, 2015 / 10:00 pm

    Lovely post Ruth. You really should consider writing a pregnancy book. Xx

  81. Andrea
    July 21, 2015 / 3:36 am

    She looks delightful, and well done you for making it through Month One, I love your honesty and I can’t wait to read the squeamish posts as I love a hearing others thoughts on pregnancy and birth. I’m sorry it didn’t go all to plan, my first didn’t either but you can kind of put all the horror behind you when you hold them in your arms and take a big inhale of the delicious new baby smell. (i’m sure you understand what i mean, I think they smell like vanilla)
    Also as some have mentioned enjoy the daytime tv, at least she is letting you sleep through the late night/early morning tv there has to some of the worst re runs ever in those time slots, its either that or the shopping channel! and in that baby haze you will be telling yourself you need that special oil that will make your car run smoother 🙂

  82. Christine
    July 21, 2015 / 9:32 am

    I love reading your posts Ruth, my boy was 9lb 14oz and came via ventouse after a lot of unsuccessful pushing, and a 26 hour labour, (I also had fertility issues) I wasnt prepared for this type of delivery (I was naive to think id have a nice calm water birth – from reading the books) and where they cut me ‘down below’ it is still uncomfortable a year and a half later, nobody really prepares you for the ‘reality’ of it all do they!, I didnt know either about the bleeding afterwards and just how beaten up you feel, hopefully your posts give some good insight to the reality of it all, Angelica is gorgeous, well done on your birth, enjoy every second! times goes too quick once they are here. Im excited to read your future posts x

  83. Maria
    July 21, 2015 / 1:15 pm

    Congrats on your baby girl! She is such a good sleeper! Yes, consider yourself VERY lucky and enjoy the sleep. Sounds like you are having an easy time adjusting to motherhood. Great post.

  84. Charlotte
    July 21, 2015 / 1:41 pm

    A massive congratulations on your baby girl, Ruth! I LOVE your incredible talent for writing about all this with so much honesty and humour! You tell it how it is, you don’t sugar coat it, but you serve it with humour and an enthusiasm that is so uplifting and admirable!

  85. July 21, 2015 / 2:56 pm

    So exciting about your precious baby! Glad things are going pretty well for you so far. I enjoyed reading the post. Thanks for sharing!

  86. Lucy Robson
    July 22, 2015 / 4:37 pm

    What a gorgeous name! Huge congratulations to you and your husband xxx

  87. Samaya
    July 22, 2015 / 4:45 pm

    Congratulations Ruth and welcome to the world Angelica! Your birth story is identical to mine, a c section had never even entered my mind until discovering I was also breech. I was so concerned I wouldn’t be able to care for my baby because of the pain and discomfort i’d be in but it’s surprising how well the body copes, I guess the maternal instinct just kicks in. Totally lost my body confidence because of the c-section ‘pooch’ or ‘flap’ thought i was stuck with it…but 9 months on it gradually decreased almost to nothing.

  88. Kelly
    July 22, 2015 / 7:23 pm

    Just had my first baby 1.5 weeks ago. Smooth pregnancy. I would say post birth has been the most difficult! Pain down there, large baby, those annoying pads, massive chest, breastfeeding woes, And what are you meant to wear when you have to pull the girls out every couple of hours. I too lost sleep and shed tears over trying to wake my baby every couple of hours when he wanted to sleep 4-5. Leaned that he will set his schedule and he is putting on weight. Loved this post. It really hit home!

  89. Chantal
    July 22, 2015 / 8:19 pm

    Awww, congrats again Ruth I’m so happy for both you and Mr AMR and Angelica is such a sweet name. 🙂 x

  90. Beth
    July 22, 2015 / 9:57 pm

    I found that Dr. Spock’s baby and child care book was so helpful in a simplistic sort of way. It’s in it’s 9th printing so it’s proven it’s measure. Things like was to do about fever or what to look for when you think he/she might have a concussion. Yes my 10 month old smacked his head on everything.
    Love the name!

  91. Jax
    July 23, 2015 / 12:11 am

    Dear Ruth and family,
    Lovely post. I would take advantage of the flowing, breezy summer dresses of the season. And, I think M&S are having a sale at the moment. Enjoy every second you can. My 24 and 26 year olds grew quickly.
    Best, J

  92. Jacqueline
    July 23, 2015 / 5:04 am

    Congratulations!! What a lovely post. And what a beautiful name for a beautiful baby! Hope you, Mr. AMR, Dexter, Mr. Bear, and the beautiful Angelica are all doing well- can’t wait for more posts:)

  93. Pinar Kurtulmus
    July 23, 2015 / 5:46 am

    Hey Ruth! I loved reading your post and I am thankful that you shared her name and her face I want to eat those hands as a snack and then those cheeks just to make sure I am totally full. She does really look like a big baby-doll but who cares her weight as long as she is healthy and happy! Love you so much

  94. Sara
    July 23, 2015 / 10:10 pm

    Congrats Ruth, such a beautiful baby girl and a beautiful name. I pray you always find coolness and peace and joy in the eyes of your children…
    I also had an emergency c-section with my first because he was a a monster of a baby.lol. 11pounds! And no one guessed he would be that big until the moment of truth. It was alright in the end but I learnt a lot on the fly as I had no one to tell me about the aftermath of C.S. ‘Belly flap, I’m looking at you’ .

    Anyways, I wish you all the best, good health and a happy life of motherhood. It’s the biggest miracle we will ever witness.: Watching a human being grow everyday..

  95. July 24, 2015 / 1:15 pm

    Oh Ruth, you never fail to make me laugh ! I guess the most important thing is that both you and the baby are healthy and well ! Your little girl looks so precious. Looking forward to more update although I am sure that you are very busy new mum, please take the time to appreciate your little one without worrying too much about your blogs/youtube channel, babies grow up so fast !

    xx, Charlie

  96. FR
    July 24, 2015 / 3:51 pm

    Interesting isn’t it though?? …. the things people don’t tell you to expect or prepare for even though babies are born all the time!! I find it very odd. Great post.

  97. Nina
    July 26, 2015 / 11:49 am

    Love your blog!

  98. Danielle
    July 26, 2015 / 12:12 pm

    Oh I found this such an interesting read Ruth! Always enjoy how you make things a little bit more light hearted, found myself giggling in parts ☺️ and the dog is just looking at me gone off! Angelica, such a beautiful name! hope you and baby are well… And again CONGRATULATIONS

  99. Leigh Cooper
    July 27, 2015 / 7:01 pm

    Oh, the boobies. Sometimes I wish I could have those puppies back for a day or two, just for fun. Of course, they were unpredictable things, too; one mention of my baby’s name would switch them on. And if baby happened to fall asleep in the middle of nursing without switching to the other side? Major lopsided issues going on!

    Happy for your happiness. Enjoy every moment of it. I know you hear it all the time, but it really does fly by.

  100. Rachel
    July 31, 2015 / 9:35 am

    What a cutie!
    I don’t have children yet (hopefully soon!), but I so much prefer reading accounts of birth and motherhood like this, that are far more realistic and honest 🙂

  101. gracie
    July 31, 2015 / 7:52 pm

    This is mad! I was pregnant at the same time as you and have had such similar experiences, I’d forgotten about the hobbling already! I was nodding my way through the post. This is in no way a horror story, coz you clearly weren’t horrified! I was surprisingly calm too, I put it down to attitude. Fair play to you!

  102. Erin
    August 4, 2015 / 4:53 pm

    Thanks for sharing, Ruth! My baby girl (almost 1 year old now) presented in a Frank breech position and needed to be delivered via C-section as well. Like you, I never even considered I’d be a candidate for a C-section…and figured since I had such a smooth pregnancy I’d have the natural (vaginal) birth I dreamed of. Happens to the best of us 🙂

  103. Michelle
    January 30, 2017 / 6:30 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this!! As a first time mom I am reading this 2 years later.. but the information is obviously very relevant 🙂 I love how honest and real you are, and how you are not giving a “birth horror story” but a real and raw account of what happened. Thank you again! I love your blogs so much. You are witty and beautiful and I will be following you month to month along with my own journey 🙂
    Much love from Vancouver BC Canada xoxo

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